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Grandelly54 Tue 26-Jan-16 20:58:13

This is very difficult for me, but I shall attempt to tell you about what happened to my eldest brother. As one of eight children and him being the eldest it makes it very hard to tell without wanting to burst into tears! My brother who was a London cabbie and worked very hard. At the beginning of December he started to feel unwell with dizzy spells and buildings and roads jumping and shaking. He had his eyes tested at the hospital as they thought it could be diabetes. Some idiots broke into his cab and smashed the windscreen about 10 days before Christmas. One of his sons said he would take him half way home and his other son would meet them to take him the rest of the way (he lives with his wife on the Essex coast). He said he was feeling unwell and as they pulled into the car park for the second leg of the journey he felt sick, when he got out of the car he collapsed, the emergency services were called and talked his daughter in law through CPR as he had died. She brought him back and he was rushed to hospital in Romford as this was deemed to be the nearest hospital. She told the hospital she thought he may have had a stroke, he was awake and talking by then, he said he felt ok, they did a CT scan and gave him a letter to see his doctor on Monday morning. When he finally reached home he started being sick and collapsed again, now it was around 11pm. Another ambulance came and took him to Colchester hospital where he was put into an induced coma as the brain bleed was so bad. His lungs are working perfectly well, his heart is working, his kidneys are working in fact everything but his brain is working. He has been in hospital now for 6 weeks and his family have been told there is nothing that can be done, the hospital have (with the families permission) stopped feeding him and so he is slowing dying. My sister in law has been amazing throughout all of this and both of her son's and 5 grandsons, now they are watching him die. This should never have happened, he should be with us and his whole family feel cheated. Had the hospital in Romford acted FAST as in all the adverts we might still have him with us.

whitewave Tue 26-Jan-16 21:11:29

Oh grandelly what a dreadful thing to be going through.
Somehow the hospital seems to have missed something which as a result was an absolute calamity for your family.
Support each other during this time - my thoughts are with you

morethan2 Tue 26-Jan-16 21:42:39

I am so sorry grandelly what a truly terrible thing to have happened, it makes it worse if you and the family feel it could have been avoided. My heart goes out to you all at this painful time.

Luckygirl Tue 26-Jan-16 22:00:19

How dreadful to feel that this sad situation could have been avoided. It makes it doubly painful. I am so sorry for you and all your family. flowers

Av1dreader Tue 26-Jan-16 22:55:14

My MIL had a stroke in July, she was talking when we got to hospital but during night had massive brain bleed and went into a vegetative state . Never regained consciousness died 3 weeks later. She was 78 very fit walked 5 miles a day played bowls it was dreadful shock as she had not had any symptoms.She was in Colchester stroke unit, they were fantastic, so good with the family and with her care.

If you feel the hospital in Romford is negligent in any way then make a complaint. Whatever the outcome of that complaint would be, the answers may help the family.

If you do not want to complain speak to the staff in Colchester. We found the staff in Colchester very approachable and they may be able to explain what may have happened in Romford.
my thoughts are with you and your family at this very difficult time.
My MIL reacted to the clot busting drugs given after her stroke with a massive brain bleed, a certain amount of people react like that. unfortunately she was one of them, not easy to hear but no ones fault.

Grandelly54 Wed 27-Jan-16 09:00:28

Thank you for your kind thoughts-you are right Av1reader about Colchester hospital they have been fantastic. My brother was just such a vital man, he was the one we went to with our problems and he dispatched his pearls of wisdom where ever he went. He will be sorely missed. Our hearts are broken. His daughter in law is taking this up with the hospital in Romford, I have spoken to the stroke association who have given me some good advice to pass on to DIL. Once again many thanks for your kind words.

PRINTMISS Wed 27-Jan-16 09:26:55

Oh dear, such a sad story of events, thoughts are with you Grandelly and what lovely memories you have of your brother,you can treasure them.