S.U.M.O.

Thank you all.
trisher my GD is 13 and very close to her D but to be fair to him he skypes every night,however it is early days,he only went two weeks ago, they have been separated 18months and school are being very supportive.

annsixty how awful for your D and her C. A break up is bad enough but to have him go so far away. I don't know about the book. I would say it will take time but she and the C will get through it. Meantime it might be helpful if everyone involved knows what has happened. When my marriage broke up my Cs went through a bad time and school was sometimes difficult, when they knew what was happening they were very sympathetic. On a brighter note, time passes, children grow up, they accept things and they do move on. Hugs for you all

It's the way I've tried to live my life. The family laugh at me because I'm always saying: nobody died, get over it.

Alea

I've not heard of that as a specific method of recovering from something like this but I can see some merits in that philosophy although everyone needs to get things off their chest. I think a mixture of both things might work but it is hard and it must be difficult for you to watch them suffering.

Better than wrestling with her feelings?(see what I did there?)
Best of luck to her, it can't be easy.
I wonder what the reaction would be if you posted that on a "why me? " thread