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sue1169 Mon 31-Oct-16 20:51:58

Well its November tomorrow-i failed to do 'stoptober'!!! Feeling really down....sooo need to quit re health but mostly cost and the obsession with it!! The more i think about quitting the more stressed i get.the more i smoke....I WANT to be a non smoker.truly. But how....life stresses. etc etc.....help please..

f77ms Wed 09-Nov-16 23:42:31

I stopped almost 2 years ago with an ecig , it is the best thing I have ever done !! It takes a few days to get used to but after that you will NOT crave ciggies at all . Don`t have any in the house and puff away on the ecig all day if you need to . Don`t buy a cheap one either , go to a specialist shop and they will help you choose the right one for you . Mine was £50 but I still have it and use it , smoking is a very strong addiction so don`t beat yourself up . Whatever people say they are 95% safer than ciggs and you will smell so sweet and be better off financially xx

GrandmaMoira Wed 09-Nov-16 20:14:22

I gave up after 40 years of heavy smoking because I had a cough which made me feel ill. I never tried to stop before and enjoyed smoking but decided I had to stop to get rid of the cough. I didn't use patches or gum as I felt I needed to get rid of the nicotine addiction so went cold turkey. I think anyone can stop if they really make the decision. When you are a smoker you think about it all the time so it's not really any different when you give up. In the first few months I had excema and hugely swollen feet and ankles but it gradually improved. My cough went immediately and I have much more puff now. I would not start again as I don't want to go through the early withdrawal again.

TriciaF Wed 09-Nov-16 20:04:10

As Jalima says, find something to fill the gaps left from not smoking. It's much harder just to stop, without something to substitute for it.

grannypiper Wed 09-Nov-16 19:49:29

Sue, keep going, we are all here for you,remember Rome was not built in a day.brewcupcake

Jalima Wed 09-Nov-16 19:21:56

if anyone offers you a cigarette, take it and snap it in two.
They won't offer again.

Jalima Wed 09-Nov-16 19:21:03

Try sticking your nose near a full ashtray of cigarette butts, then telling yourself that this is what you smell like to other people.

Cold turkey.
Jump up after a meal and do something.
Try a hobby like crochet, knitting baby clothes for charity if you don't know a baby (you won't want them to smell of smoke!) - anything to keep your mind occupied.

sue1169 Wed 09-Nov-16 19:16:41

Failed failed failed....SO try try try again!!?please all keep rooting for me..just re-read ALL your posts and it helps!! Gives me hope!!?

sue1169 Thu 03-Nov-16 20:39:51

Oh Maimeo I am so feeling the suport-haha i actually cant wait for tomorrow!! Stop smoking .hopefully put some much needed weight back on.smell nicer feel fitter and ..get out of the red and into the black...ALL because of smoking!! Excited now?

Maimeo Thu 03-Nov-16 19:46:05

Good luck for tomorrow, Sue1169, you CAN do it! There's been so much helpful advice on this thread so hopefully you'll feel the waves of support and encouragement throughout your first day.....

Indinana Thu 03-Nov-16 19:43:50

Good luck sue1169 - I really hope you manage to do it this time. The only person I told when I gave up was my DD because she quit the same time! My DH didn't notice for about 3 weeks, by which time I was feeling really confident about succeeding.
Just keep coming on here for support and to update us about your progress, especially if you are
having a bad day! It might be all you need to keep you on track flowers

phoenix Thu 03-Nov-16 19:33:44

Previously I tried patches, gum (yuk!) but the e cig has worked. My one doesn't look like a cigarette, and it did take me a few tries to find the mix that worked.
ly, all the tobaccl flavours were not my cup of tea at all, whe
Oddn someone suggested cherry my initial reaction was confused but after trying oodles of different flavours, I now find that cherry or coffee are my preferred vape.

you can do it

sue1169 Thu 03-Nov-16 18:59:41

Oh thank you notoveryet and a prayer for you too?

sue1169 Thu 03-Nov-16 18:57:45

Thank you swanny.I am not saying anything to family-theyve heard it before.many times? am also going to take indinana's advice and have that one cig in the morning!! Give it my best shot.only people who smoke/smoked/live with a smoker can truly understand the habitual addictive grasp of nicotine....✨

notoveryet Thu 03-Nov-16 18:55:12

However you do it,please stop. My dh is very ill from a smoking related illness and I am looking at losing him to it. He stopped cold turkey but the damage had been done, I say this, only with a heartfelt wish that you find a way.

Bbnan Thu 03-Nov-16 18:52:20

Tomorrow all our family will be 2 years smoke free......we found out dgd was on the way .....myself husband and 2 sons ....hypnotherapy cost 200 each and we decided we could not smoke till cost was recuperated.......no longings or lapses ...all over 20 a day smokers......best money we ever spent

Swanny Thu 03-Nov-16 18:22:45

sue just wanted to wish you good luck for tomorrow, as it's the first day of your tobacco-free life smile Don't beat yourself up if it doesn't go as well as you hope. It won't mean you've failed, just that it wasn't the right time for you, so do it the next day.

I think Indinana's suggestion of stopping after your first cigarette of the day is a good one. Also I know lots of people advise telling friends and family that you're going to stop at a certain time but I found it easier not to tell anyone I'd stopped, there's less pressure on you that way. It was actually 2 weeks before my son noticed!

Eloethan Wed 02-Nov-16 23:37:54

sue1169 I know just how you feel. Over the years I've given up dozens of times. I am not smoking at the moment but unfortunately if I'm under severe stress or am particularly upset about something, I know I can so easily start up again.

Don't be too discouraged. There's nothing to stop you having another go. Even if you only give up intermittently it gives your body a little bit of a rest and maybe one day you'll be able to give up for good.

Indinana Wed 02-Nov-16 22:06:34

After smoking for 40 years I finally made a firm decision to stop when the law about smoking in public places was passed - I was determined not to be the saddo standing outside a restaurant in the freezing cold/pouring rain just to feed my addiction! So I fixed a date early in 2007 to quit.
What I'd always found hardest was waking up on the day I'd promised to quit, knowing I couldn't have a cigarette with my early morning cuppa. It meant I started the day on a total downer instead of the positive frame of mind I so needed in order to quit. So.... I decided that on my chosen day I would get up, have my cuppa and enjoy my last cigarette. And then quit. It worked. I haven't smoked since. And if I'm perfectly honest, it really wasn't difficult. I realised that the hardest thing is making that absolute commitment to stop. Once you have that level of determination, really have it, then the rest is much easier than you think.

sue1169 Wed 02-Nov-16 18:18:00

Wish were that easy AmMaz?

AmMaz Wed 02-Nov-16 07:42:55

Just stop.

Shesanana Tue 01-Nov-16 22:58:51

I smoked 20 to 30 a day for about 40 years. I tried hypnotherapy and patches but still went back to smoking. Then 5 and a half years ago I read Allen Carr's book, the easy way to stop smoking. I didn't expect it to work but was fascinated by the excellent reviews of people who had stopped smoking after reading it. I read it on my Kindle and didn't tell anyone so was under no pressure. Believe me, no-one could have been more surprised than I was myself when I stubbed out that last cigarette and realised that was it. I've never wanted another cigarette! And that's the beauty of this method. I had/have absolutely no cravings. My family were amazed. I'm still not sure how it works. Definitely psychological and the realisation that the addiction is not as bad as its made out to be. Whatever works for you sue1169 I wish you all the best in your determination to become a non smoker!

CrazyDaisy Tue 01-Nov-16 18:42:07

I had a good reason to stop as I had just met my DH. He asked me the day we met if I was a smoker and I said, "Not any more," because I really wanted to see him again and I knew he was a non-smoker.

I had read somewhere that it takes three weeks to change a habit so kept telling myself that it wasn't such a long time and that I could do it. It worked for me. That was eight years ago.

All the best with your efforts sue1169. It isn't easy but it really is worth it! flowers

Carolespr Tue 01-Nov-16 17:55:17

At the smoking cessation clinic they said it was not important that I come off e-cigs as there is very little harm in these. The main thing was that I had stopped poisoning myself with normal cigarettes.

Morgana Tue 01-Nov-16 17:33:56

I gave up smoking when I was pregnant years ago. No e cigs then but am wondering if all the posters above who talk about e cig s are still using them or whether they are just an interim measure.?

Carolespr Tue 01-Nov-16 17:16:30

I smoked cigarettes for over 50 years, then was told by a specialist at the hospital that I should give up or risk mouth cancer as I had a white patch. I attended the local Smokefree Clinic (run by the local NHS Community Health and Care Trust and was given various options which I could try. I decided on the course of Champix tablets which could be used in conjunction with an e-cigarette. I had 3 further visits to the Clinic on a 1-to-1 basis with an Adviser. I have now not had a cigarette since the beginning of July, I have finished the tablets and am smoking an e-cigarette. I have managed this despite the fact that my husband smokes like a chimney and have also been in company with several friends smoking. I have to say I would LIKE a normal cigarette, but don't have desperate cravings. Go on, give it a go! Good luck.