Watching her kill herself

There is nothing you can do or suggest, all it will fall on deaf ears. My daughter, 47, is the same but a type 1. She smokes and eats all the wrong foods and will not listen to anything anyone has to say. She can barely walk because of the state of her feet and is also losing feeling in her fingers. Each winter I think it will be her last, but no she is still plodding on. All I do now is accept it is her life style choice, she knows the risks so I just carry on visiting and supporting her and try (its hard) not to get emotional. Good luck.

Unfortunately you can’t force an adult to change the way they live. Whether it’s drink, drugs, smoking or diet, it has to come from them. It can be heartbreaking to watch someone suffer through self neglect or abuse but nagging her will probably only make it worse.

Therein lies a truth DanniRae

We accept alcohol and smoking as addictions, but baulk at adding food (especially carbs and sugars) to an addictive list. Of course it took years and so many dead before the giants in the tobacco industry could be felled. I think there is a powerful food lobby who need investigating and curtailing.

I have someone in my life who has type 2 diabetes and doesn't seem to care about her condition. I was at her house once when she tested her blood sugar levels and the result was so high the blood testing machine had a message saying "Seek Medical Help!" - she just ignored it!
Mind you my brother-in-law had 3 cancer scares and refused to stop smoking. Sadly he eventually died of lung cancer. He had stopped smoking in front of people but was still doing it behind our backs. He had a lovely family, was funny and so well liked but he couldn't, apparently, stop doing what he must have known was going to kill him

I have a male friend also type 2 and injecting, he is adamant that as long as he injects he will be fine.
He eats and eats, his diet is high carb and high sugar and he enjoys wine in large quantities.
He will not change his ways.
My husband was diagnosed with type 2 last year. His readings were high and his symptoms caused him a lot of discomfort, we reversed his type 2 in 3 months. He is now a regular gym goer and his diet is low carb and low sugar.
His sweet tooth has disappeared and he looks and feels wonderful.
I think the difference is my husband did not want to medicate and wanted to find a way to stop the disease whereas my friend just sees the medication as a solution that allows him to continue his gluttony.

One of my in-laws had the attitude that she’d rather live a shorter life enjoying her indulgences than live longer without them.

She must have been told many times how she can improve her health. She has chosen not to. I think all you can do is accept and love her as she is. Only when she decides ( and if) can she do anything about it. She is fortunate to have got to 70.

There is nothing you can do unfortunately She will have been given all the information by doctors hospitals nurses and her direct family She has chosen to continue as she is, for her it is easier than changing the ways she is so entrenched in
Unfortunately her family have to watch her slowly kill herself through her lack of seeing that there is another route (or was) it s a shame but some things you can’t change even though you want to

It is so important she takes it upon herself. The doctor is the one to suggest different food. One older woman at Slimmers World had to use an electric chair just to cross a room. She lost a great deal and walks everywhere now. She never missed a group and takes the money. You would never know she had been so ill.
Overeating can be a psychological illness and very debilitating. Good luck.