My apologies for being late in responding to all you kind and understanding lovely GN girls! All of your comments and suggestions were much appreciated, and I will reply as follows, just not individually, sorry! Our children live some distance away so don't see Dad often, although I have spoken of the confabulation situation, I don't think they realise how wearing it is. We are going on holiday next June with the youngest and husband for a week, so hope she will see things differently! I did join a local Carers group and gave it a year, but it was a very 'clicky' group and I never felt part of it.....one member said to me 'oh you are from down south'! No, am a Midlander now living up north! The counsellor there talked a great deal about her own TIA and double booked my last appointment, so I gave up. A volunteer who offered relaxing foot massaging, which I really enjoyed, talked non-stop unfortunately! I will try to be more patient and understanding, as do carers of Dementia patients have to be, but in doing so become more isolated in my own home! DH has an outside interest in bowling, so does that weekly with help from other guys, and I do volunteer with a local charity 3 hrs pw and in better weather we try and share the gardening, but, of course, he doesn't read instructions or directions labels or ask for help, and has had a couple of falls in the garden, hey ho! No bones broken! I haven't had a day completely to myself for over 5 years, half days maybe, so they are treasured. Thank you again for your feedback, I just wish I had been told more about confabulation at the time of his stroke, and not had to Google it,etc., to learn more about it. I will seriously consider talking to his GP and asking for a possible referral .