Black Dog Gang 5

Gossamerbeynon, welcome , always someone here to listen,
understand and support x
The loss of your mother at 13, then your fathers ill health and
his death when you were only 20. So much pain for someone
so young, thank God you had your grandmothers love and
support x

A big warm welcome to Gossamerbeynon1945. When I first logged on to this forum I was amazed at the kindness of all these lovely friends I have now made. You will feel the same.
Annie I like so many others am amazed with what you have had and still do cope with. I have said this before but I just wish I had a fraction of your resilience, compassion and the wisdom of your words. We are all so lucky to have you here.
Nonnie like you I am not so good at remembering all our friends names however I am wishing everyone and that includes me - to try and find the strength to get us all through this awful time. It truly is like living in a sci fi movie (box set!).
Prayers for all.

Thank you Jose345

Welcome Gossamerbeynon ..

Thank you for the welcome Lavenderzen

Hello Gossamerbeynon good to have you join us.

Just calling in to wish everyone a peaceful and calm evening, with sleep free from worry and pain.
Love to all xx

kind

I forgot to ask if I could join in with you lovely knid and caring ladies

I agree with you Annie about past troubles. I was speaking to my lovely grandson on the phone tonight and I suddenly remembered what had occured in my young life. My mother died when I was 13 and my father had a very serious life threatening illness, and was permanently parked on Death's Doorstep. He died when I was 20. My lovely Welsh grandmother brought me up. She was like a little oak tree - so strong. Th is happend in the 1960s in Grammar school and One teacher (when I went back to school after one week) asked me if I was alright and had someone to look after me

But I got through that and I like to think that now I am a decent, ordinary person.

I firmly believe that as long as we stay together and help each other that we can get through this bad time.

whywhywhy thank you so much for explaining, I didn’t have
son so no daughter in law.

It is possible your elder son is troubled by your depression so
no contact means he doesn’t have to let it trouble him, l
don’t know, just thinking it through.

Regarding medication, I hope some one here if on medication
can talk about it.

There is a difference in being addicted to medication and being dependent on medication, the latter can be caused by fear of giving it up incase the depression returns, again I don’t
know, just sharing thoughts.

You can beat depression x

Annie I agree with lavenderzen, You have had so much pain in your years, yet you are always there for others.. Xx

Also my two eldest children have a different dad to the youngest (SON) and they have always been jealous and not afraid to show it. There is a 18 year age gap between my eldest son and youngest. Xx

Anniebach Hi.

I used to be so close to my eldest son when he was younger and before his wife and kids came along, which is understandable. I do get along with my DIL. I have often wondered if the depression is something that he cannot cope with in me.

Also I have been offered medication in the past but I did have a SIL years ago that was clearly addicted to the stuff and she was never the same person again. I don’t want that to happen.

Thank you all for your kind words and for reading it.

Annie xx you have had so much to contend with over the years and you came through all the pain and sorrow, admire you greatly xx

Don’t want to be a bore but this may help someone.

I got so down a few nights ago, granddaughter can’t come possibly for months to help , Physiotherapist can’t visit, buying electric wheelchair cancelled, in self isolation etc how will I cope ?

Clearly I remembered 46 years ago, widowed , two small daughters, had to move from police house into a council house on an estate still being built, no street lights, no telephone, no neighbours, had never been alone, with parents until I married
, I sat alone in the new house and my thoughts ? How will I
cope?

I did , we are stronger than we think we are x

annie I bought a toy from John Lewis but when I opened it it was not suitable. I took it back to the shop on a drizzly day and the cardboard got damp so they wouldn't take it back. Suggest you use a flannel, dishcloth or whatever and see if that works. You've probably already thought of that!

joce that really is so sad. Hope he enjoys music in a different way.

Aww Annie you poor hands. Could you use a mug to get water out off the bucket my be, wouldn’t worry about fingernails they see worse than that, they will release you can’t cut them. Don’t think we appreciate our hands till we can’t use them...
My husband was a musician and a very good one he could play any instrument, he had a bad accident his hand was crushed, they did save his hand, it’s still a mess but he has a sort of hand, he has never played since, very sad music was his love from being very young.. fantastic drummer.. x

Hello all. annie life must be so difficult for you. You are very ingenious in trying to solve problems. Hope you get your cup of tea and dog food sorted?
My DH is on the shielded list. He got his text 2 days ago. We are not surprised as we knew he would be on it. We are just trying to keep ourselves isolated as much as possible.
To all those who are struggling, take heart. We are all here.
Hope you are all coping x

whywhywhy hello x

It’s good you have contact with your grandchildren, this keeps
doors open.

I don’t want to quiz but a thought about your two sons, is it a possibility your elder son is a person who can’t cope with
depression ? There are people who can’t . And is he close to his
sister ?

Can you see another GP ? there are friends on this thread who
take medication , at times it is the answer to help you out of
the pit of depression. Keep posting, we all care and understand

Hi all x

Quite a morning , hand physiotherapist telephoned me yesterday, house visits stopped so could I mail photographs
of my hands, simple ? No. So My younger daughter in Lincolnshire took photographs on FaceTime for me to forward, most embarrassing, finger nails are talons, can’t cut
them !

Dog food in strong cardboard boxes, can’t open the boxes,
bright idea, put in bucket of water to soak the cardboard yes ?
No, bucket of water in kitchen sink, can’t lift it out. Can’t fill
the kettle for a mug of tea .

Hey ho.

Note to self: When up a ladder hacking down prickly things, wear gloves!

Hello Dawn had a nice hour in hot tub..
Nonnie think we who have gardens are very lucky to have some where to get out of the house. I love our garden running water in pond I enjoy watching the fish.. the birds are singing it does lift me somewhat..
Dawn my budgie is a female we did want a male but not every one can tell the difference males have blue above there nose and more friendly I think.. but she’s my friend don’t really take any looking after change water every day twice a day when warm and seed when needed.. she is always with me, she does play with grandkids but not for long... my last budgie could talk, this one doesn’t but she has a nice song for me...
hope everyone has a good day the sun is shining hear so going to enjoy my book outside.. xx

Firstly, admiration for all of you who remember all our names, I am useless at that.

Feeling grateful that DH and I have so much support and have a garden we can go in. I'm waiting for the sun to come round to the end of it and going out for a therapeutic hack. DH has ordered an incinerator as the council have suspended their garden refuse collections.

We have a balcony and I was on it yesterday chatting to 2 lots of neighbours then later a couple from further down the close rang the bell and went back to the pavement. They wanted to check on us and swap phone numbers in case of need. They are about our age, so kind.

Has anyone had one of the NHS texts? We don't expect one but know someone who has had one. Must be very worrying for them. Hope none of you gets one.

Lovely for all of you who have pets or wild visitors, next door's cat has abandoned our garden probably because they are all home and it is not alone.

Bit cryptic but we have made the next step in our challenge and feeling a bit more positive about it.

Hope you all have something good in your lives today, so glad I could find a positive this time

Dear Joce
When you can will you tell us a bit about what it is like to have a budgie as a pet; daily routine; feeding; how good a companion they are etc.

Would have liked to get one but l think l have left it too late for now as pet shops are closed.

Enjoy your tub Joce.
Dawn xx

Just read your post whywhywhy. Glad to see you here. We are all here for you. Take care xx