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Doodle Wed 15-Jan-20 16:56:36

annie hope it’s not presumptuous of me to start the thread but I appear to have closed the last one and didn’t want to leave anyone with no where to go.
Welcome all x

SalsaQueen Wed 11-Mar-20 20:00:46

SallyB392 On this thread, we all have depression, anxiety, low moods.

Is it just this particular virus that scares you, or do you worry about your husband in general? To put it into perspective, think of all the millions of people who are going about their usual daily lives - police, hospital workers, teachers, army, carers, shop workers, etc., etc. I live in Nottingham, and in NottinghamSHIRE, a few people have been tested positive for Coronavirus, and a couple of people have died.....but that is out of 882,000 people. Although the virus is serious and is spreading throughout the world, the chances of you or your husband or someone you know getting it are SMALL.

lavenderzen Wed 11-Mar-20 19:50:42

Hello everyone, an early night for me tonight.
Sally you will find kind, understanding support here, a safe haven.
Take care all and sleep well xxx

Joce345 Wed 11-Mar-20 17:46:59

Sally you are more than welcome, can I ask does your husband have existing heath problems.?

SallyB392 Wed 11-Mar-20 16:44:36

Please can I join in?

I'm feeling very vulnerable, scared if the truth be known, and I don't know what to do. I'm scared of this new virus, not so much me catching it, more my husband catching it, I'm so dependent on him. He is my best friend and my carer. If something happens to him, I couldn't go on, I wouldn't want to go on.

I'm feeling like my mood is dropping too fast (I have bipolar), I don't want to see anyone though. They always tell me what I'm feeling and I just go along with it, it's easier. I've got an appointment with a CPN on Monday, and then on Tuesday I've got an assessment for PIP. I can't cancel that meeting but I don't want people coming to my home. He or she may have the virus.

Joce345 Wed 11-Mar-20 16:05:05

Annie my liver functions always come back very high..
think it the tablets that can affect it...

SalsaQueen Wed 11-Mar-20 14:44:16

Anniebach How are you today? What is going to happen about your liver function?

Joce345 Hope today is brighter for you.

Nonnie A lot of us have things that trouble us but which we don't want to talk about publically. I hope you get a sense of unburdening yourself at your meetings.

Doodle, Grandmafrench, Rafichagran, Lavenderzen, Flutterby, I hope you are all alright too

I've been busy again today, which is good as it helps me to sleep.

Joce345 Wed 11-Mar-20 11:19:38

Nonnie my heart goes out to you. So pleased you have some support it’s important to us all, we all need it. God bless you. ?

Nonnie Wed 11-Mar-20 10:59:45

Joce, Lavenderzen & Doodle thanks for understanding. I am sure if we were face to face and I told you all about it you would be appalled.

We went to the group last night and there were other newbies there too which probably helped. I feel so sad for them all, it brings out my overly motherly gene and I want to make things better but can't. We mentioned our additional situation on top of the one we all had and I think some thought it was too much to believe but I understand why they would, we are still trying to come to terms with it.

So, onwards and upwards all of us BDs, I'm back to just keeping on keeping on and only doing a very few things. I am fortunate with the support I have and hope you all have some near and dear people to give you the same.

Joce345 Wed 11-Mar-20 00:28:00

Good night all, wishing all a peaceful night sleep well... ?

lavenderzen Tue 10-Mar-20 20:25:18

Hello, how is everyone.
Glad you had your results Annie and they are ok'ish.
Nonnie you have to do what you feel is right at the time, maybe in the future you will be able to re-arrange if you feel able to cope.
Hope you are feeling better Joce, things seem to overwhelm us at times. Keep strong.
I was thinking about you Flutterby last night. I hope you feel more settled. I do think these unknown procedures feel frightening to us and its not easy just to put them to the back of our minds. I am having an MRI at the end of March, today the postie brought a letter with the hospital postmark on it and I thought, good they have cancelled it because of this virus but they hadn't it was just the results of some test - silly thought really I thought it was a get out!
Doodle thank you for the note above to us all. I hope you are ok.
Grandmafrench it is good to read your posts, thank you.
Rafichagran Salsa hope you are well and those I have forgotten. Love to you all.
Hope everyone has a peaceful night and sleep comes to those with pain xx

Doodle Tue 10-Mar-20 19:34:30

Hi nonnie. Sorry you have such troubles. No need to share them if it’s unwise. We all have to be cautious about what we put on open forums. Whatever it is I hope you get some support and help. We are all here for you. Take care.
Fortunately GNHQ seem to have dealt with the troublesome private messages (others got them too) and said person has now been removed from the site.
Hope you are all ok. Sleep well all x

Joce345 Tue 10-Mar-20 16:59:38

Nonnie you sound so troubled, I wish we could help you,
Just know that we are hear for you, no one know what other people have to endure , we all have our crosses. They say God only give us as much has we can carry. I pray your lode will be as light as possible.. x??

Nonnie Tue 10-Mar-20 15:51:16

Thanks annie. I hope you are right, I rejected the opportunity given to me because I didn't want to hurt, I now wonder if it was a mistake.

Thanks Doodle we all need to be watchful

Joce345 Tue 10-Mar-20 13:55:04

Doodle Thank you for making us aware of this...
my friend was scammed last week they emptied her bank... need to be so careful...

Anniebach Tue 10-Mar-20 13:42:02

Thank you Doodle for the warning, I hope no one will reply
if they are contacted

Doodle Tue 10-Mar-20 13:05:33

Hi all. Will be back later to chat but just popping in with a quick message. I received a PM today from an unknown user saying that as I’d mentioned my mental health problems they wanted to know if I’d test out some thing they had worked on. I have no idea who this user is and have no interest in having anything to do with them so I have reported it to GN and blocked the user from messaging me. Just wanted to warn you in case any of you get similar post.
Take care. Back later x

Anniebach Tue 10-Mar-20 10:48:17

Hi all x

nonnie, I am not speaking of revenge but may I share what
my darling Grampa told me about those who harm others ?

I was having a rant about someone who had been cruel to another, not me, I said ‘why do such people get away with
causing so much hurt’, he said

‘They don’t cariad, it may not be today , tomorrow, next week
or next year but there will come a time ‘ .

Nonnie Tue 10-Mar-20 10:38:35

Joce sorry to hear it has come back, I think perhaps just accept it and wait for it to go away? Not sure fighting it always works. Perhaps some form of distraction? So easy to suggest what others could do but not so easy to do it myself.

annie glad the vit D is OK, keep on having tests though if you can.

Everyone thanks for all the support and advice. Just feel I need to say that the support group is not AA! Not that it would be any less valuable as I don't believe anyone sets out to be any kind of addict. It is our first one and we can leave at any time if we feel uncomfortable. I can't go into any details on a public forum but can say it is very unlikely that any of you have been in my situation, it is an extremely rare one, thank God and I doubt you would believe me if you knew. It is not something I can accept and DH and I do have to fight it to the end for the sake of others. It will be a long battle. Sorry to be so cryptic.

I control the things I can, I look for the positives, I eat healthily but sparingly as I have a slow metabolism, I appreciate my wonderful family but this is something I cannot control despite years of working on it. In many ways I have a great life. However, we don't always get what we deserve and I don't think karma always happens.

Thanks all.

rafichagran Mon 09-Mar-20 23:00:35

Thankyou Grandmafrench. I have a tendency to be a little straight talking, but some of the stuff I have seen on Gransnet has shocked even me.
Your posts are always encouraging and pleasant.
Annie Hope you hear from the physio soon.
lavenderzen try to sleep well tonight.
Best wishes to everyone here. I hope you all have a better day tommorow.

Joce345 Mon 09-Mar-20 22:44:55

Thank you Annie, I will be give it a good go I don’t like this feeling , but I know I am not on my own I find the support form all our friend on hear is very comforting.?

Doodle thank you yes still taking my oil may be need to up the dose for a bit ?

Grandma lovely post and thank you.. ?

Hope every one has a good peaceful nights sleep ?
God bless all?

Anniebach Mon 09-Mar-20 22:23:21

Grandmafrench A lovely encouraging post, thank you x

Some threads ? No they will not stop, I am use to it and there
are lovely posters too.

No word from the physiotherapist yet. x

Grandmafrench Mon 09-Mar-20 22:09:05

Good evening to all you Gentleladies ! I say this because, between losing and recovering my internet connection many times angry in the last 24 hours, I have witnessed such appalling rudeness, spite, disrespect and childish behaviour on this Forum that I am so pleased to finally post on a thread where there are gentle people who have something to say and who know how to behave towards others. So, take a bow everyone?smile. There seems to be quite a feeling of sadness and worry around this evening. If I scroll back through the names to get everything correct, I will lose my post. I know, this cos I've just tried it. So, in no particular order to everyone, can I just wish you all a better time very soon? Doodle you have Tinnitus? You poor thing, I know what that's like, I've had the problem for years and sometimes....well....you know how it is! Joce, as someone said (I think) you mustn't be too worried about how you are feeling post holiday. Everyone big or small gets the big come-down after a nice holiday and it sounded as if you had a really great time. All the effort you put in to controlling anxiety and worry about it all, beforehand, and the travel and the excitement and then coming back home. I should think you're feeling pretty tired, so take extra care of yourself - you'll get back on an even keel quicker. Nonnie - hope you take some comfort from the advice from all those who know you on here. You sound such a caring soul, why not make up your mind to let other people care for you. Opening up, a tiny bit at a time, to people who are willing to help and support you, leaning on others for a change in your bad times will enable you to feel you're not so alone with your problems. Be brave, go to your meeting and you may be so pleased you did. Lavenderzen Being awake in the small hours, trying to cope when it's always worse in the dark and feeling anxious or in pain, is the pits, isn't it. You sound as if you deal with it so sensibly. Getting out of bed and moving about, some tea and toast, your book, a painkiller, lamp on, breathing calmly and concentrating only on "good' thoughts - distraction is essential then. Sometimes if my mind is racing, I make a list or write down how I feel. Always have paper and pen by my bed just in case I fail to remember in the morning the "cunning plan" which comes to me in the middle of the night. Sometimes I just want to step outside and b.r.e.a.t.h.e. I've sat in the garden in warm weather and watched the starts and sniffed my night-scented stocks and listened to our little shouting frogs! A Youtube video to make me laugh - old Morecambe & Wise, Tony Hancock, Fawlty Towers can distract me enough for sleep too. Rafichagran - oh, know what you feel about Sunday nights. I used to get so wound up whilst just watching the clock moving ever forwards towards another Monday and too much work - and stress. Hope your Sciatica is improving/on the wane. I assume you have anti-inflammatories? They will too often affect your digestion, especially with regular doses. Hope you NEVER take them on an empty tum! Get better soon, eh? Flutterby. Endoscopy? No wonder you are anxious. But what is it they say about not worrying until you need to? I know - I wish too that I could take my own advice. Seriously, if your Doc is going down the path of trying various medication or ways of treating you and an endoscopy is going to be necessary eventually, try not to think about it until "eventually" arrives. Then, when she says you need one, explain in strong terms (if necessary, take a friend with you) that you understand the procedure but cannot under any circumstances go for this unless you have a general anaesthetic. That used to be not considered necessary when I lived in the UK., though maybe things have changed. It doesn't hurt, but for some people it's just too too much to cope with. (In France, where every patient demands their money' worth, everyone has a general! ) Whatever happens you need to think about it when you're told that the procedure is necessary, not before, or you'll be a nervous wreck. SalsaQ. I never commented on your new hairstyle. Do hope you are thrilled with it and it makes you feel younger, more energised and more glamorous? A lot to ask from a box of hair colour, but you never know! grin. Lastly, the lovely Annie. How do you do it? How do you respond so firmly but with such dignity - and humour - to some of the nonsense that is posted on other threads? People tying themselves into knots, but they just won't stop, will they? Well done you, making a stand for maturity, intellect and plain old common sense. Hope your summer plans for some new clothes are still on the drawing board, so that you'll be ready to roll with David when your legs start behaving again. What is the current state of play with Physio? Hopefully, Her With the Overheating and Overcoat will not be darkening your doors for the longest of times. Even the NHS must have a Physio better than that. We shall all wait with bated breath. OK., I've caught up. So sorry if I've forgotten anyone and apologies if you've toppled off your chairs and are loudly snoring at the tedium of this endless ramble. Sleep well everyone and maybe have a much better Tuesday? Big elbow bumps and pretend hugs and little waves from the South of France - given that kisses and handshakes are now forbidden. Nighty night x

Doodle Mon 09-Mar-20 22:09:02

That’s good news annie ?

Anniebach Mon 09-Mar-20 22:06:27

My vitamin D is fine ! seems my liver function not so fine but in the range of ok.

Doodle Mon 09-Mar-20 20:59:22

annie you are so kind and wise. What would we do without you flowers ?
nonnie you are not really hiding from those thoughts. They are there in your mind and that is what is causing you such problems. I have been the same too. Pretending thoughts weren’t there. Unwilling to face things for fear of the panic that would ensue. Well nonnie some of the things I feared happened. Some didn’t. As the saying goes, this too will pass. And it does. In some way we move on. I hope your meeting helps. I imagine many of the people there feel like you and have their own troubles. Take care.
joce, perhaps it’s a bit anticlimax after your holiday. You have been there before and coped so try some meditation or calming techniques. Are you still taking the CBD oil? Hope it helps.
Hello salsa, flutterby, lavender, rafichagran, eilyann and grandmafrench hope you are all ok. Has anyone heard from nanny recently?
Take care all. Sleep well moon

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