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On annie your girls were so young to lose their father. I can well understand why they were afraid of losing you too.
I am so glad you can see your lovely mountains from your window, even if only in the distance. Your love for the mountains is obvious and I can well understand why. It’s good you have a view outside even if you cannot actually get out there. I keep hoping and praying that the time will come when you can. Sleep well x
Hope everyone else is ok. Night night x

Gossamer , you may not remember your mother’s face but
some memories ? Or did you block them .

Again I will bring my experience into this, two years ago my
beloved elder daughter and best friend died, her children were
25, 20 and 19, the middle child will now speak about her mother, the youngest one spoke of her for the first time this
February, the eldest her son never mentions her, they had a
very close bond.

So things can be shut out because they are too painful to remember.

You also have the worry of your husband . Talk here when ever you need to, always someone around x

My anxiety did ease for a while but now it is back with a vengeance. I have tried most things CBT, meditation, self help books and I was recommended HEADSPACE. I adored my mother, but now, unless I look at her picture, I can't remember much about her at all.

Thank you so much for your understanding Anniebach

nanny. For you, don’t compare yourself with the person you
think took Tank, think of those here , you are cared about x

Joyce I am ok thanks, very bored, through the winter I watched Downton Abbey then Lark Rise to Candleford, just
one episode every night, now I can’t find anything to fill that
hour x

Doodle yes I have large windows in kitchen and living room,
can see my shrubs in the back garden and through the front
window, in the distance my beloved mountains and quite near
the window is a flowering cherry tree, I love watching the birds, waiting for two magpies to return, Ethel and Dome x

Gossamer 13 is a time when a girl is coping with much , to
cope with the death of your mother , your world must have
been in turmoil.

My daughters were younger when their father died 5 and 7,
his death affected our elder daughter very much, she feared
I would die, this went on for years .

If I may ask ? Did your anxiety ease but has now flared up ?

And thank you for the laugh x

Night lavenderzen, night all hope you all have a peaceful nights sleep ? ?

Good night all. Have a peaceful evening and sleep well, free from worry and pain xx

Gossamer that made me smile ?
Hope everyone has had a peaceful day. Hopefully enjoying the lovely sunshine..
Annie how are you today.. x

I have decided to only watch the news once a day. Any more than that and I get beside myself. My husband has had a stroke and cannot speak at all which can make life difficult and sometimes takes people into "frozen leg of lamb territory"

You are such lovely people - very patient and kind, always ready to listen.

I don't think I dealt with the death of my mother until I had my little girl. I then developed severe health anxiety - I was so frightened that the same thing would happen to me. Now I sort of accept it because my beloved daughter is a nurse, so I worry about her a lot. She, on the other hand seems to smile through it all and is quite calm about the whole coronavirus issue.

Something to make you laugh; a man bought his wife a map of the world and promised to take her on holiday to any place she could hit with a dart.

They are going to spend two weeks behind the fridge

I was sitting looking out of my window today at the trees and flowers and I was wondering annie do you have a window you look out of? Can you see your garden or the sunshine? It makes such a difference to see some blue sky and feel the warmth of the sun.
I think it is a good idea to avoid the news if it upsets you. Hope all who are anxious are trying to be busy with things to take your mind off it.
I don’t think it is necessarily any easier to cope with things if you have had tragedies to deal with bluesky. Each one takes its own toll. I just think maybe it helps you to be more understanding of others suffering. I am sorry your stomach is so bad. I think we all know what that’s like. Have you anything that can calm it or relax you a bit.
nanny you are not like the person who took Tank and as annie said you must stop those thoughts. Tank could be living a fine life somewhere well cared for. I’m sorry you had such an upsetting dream.
Take care all.

Nonnie it is life no ones fault it just what live throws at us..
I really struggle like a lot more on this forum I mean really struggle, but do you know what, I would still it sooner be me than anyone else.
I feel so much for other people that have mental illness, I feel so much for people.. may be that’s my problem, but that’s how I am..
bluesky I am the same as you, so I really just want a rest from the new so TV OFF for me and music on...
there is always someone worse than me..
Annie hope you are ok today.. x

BlueSky no, not cope better, there is always the thought -
how much more can I take.

naanny if being a person makes you like a person who took
Tank, change the thought, think of a good person you know
or have heard of x

Hello all xx
Hope everyone is coping the best they can. I think, for me, Bluesky the best thing I can do is not to watch the news if at all possible. It just perpetuates anxiety and I know you suffer like me with IBS. I try to distract myself.
I also agree with Annie and Nonnie, why, I am a firm believe in medication if necessary. I haven't taken antidepressants, so I cannot give a personal opinion on them but I do take medication for anxiety and it does help. Sometimes symptoms do get the better of me particularly at 4 oclock in the morning but I manage to control it when I get up.
Nanny I am so sorry about Tank and how you feel xx

The sun is shining here and I will have a walk later.
My good thing for today is when I drew the curtains this morning there were lambs in the fields opposite running around and bouncing about, such a joyful display of Spring
Love to Joce Dawn Flutterby and those I will have forgotten

Take care everyone xx

hello Gossamer. xx

Isnt the brain a funny thing. In 5 days time babycakes will have been missing a year. In that year I have found you guys and this thread which is a definite positive but i have changed, I dont like being a person anymore. Because I dont want to be classed the same as the person who stole Tank. I used to be so kind. Now i still am kind but I am so very distant now. I am sad and i think I always will be now,

Then 2 nights ago i had a dream that Tank came home. He was skinny his feet fur was over grown and he had a sore foot...but he was home, i could feel thee happiness even thought i was asleep...then i woke up and boom back in the real world

Of course Annie people who have already 'given' like yourself seem to cope better with anything else life throws at the them. I just wish the physical symptoms stopped, wine seems to help so cheers! Big (virtual) hug x

Because nonnie that’s life , always been so always will. No point in thinking about it x

My positive for today - just made raspberry buns for my 'carers'. Trying to make something old fashioned each week for them. It is they (family) who have insisted on our House Arrest!

BlueSky Wed 25-Mar-20 10:08:58 I agree but there may also be people like me who are able to just accept it. Does that sound strange? I think it is because we are all in the same boat and can do very little about it. What is causing my depression is something I think I should be able to do something about and keep trying to but it hasn't worked so far.

Yes annie I don't swear but $£^&^*()*_( why do some have to put up with so much and others almost nothing?

Why many people are better off with antidepressants, it is a personal decision. Even if you have to stay on them for the rest of your life, for some that is better than the suffering they endure. Please be open to them if the need arises.

Gossamer all welcome here, we are all different, some share everything some very little so feel free to contribute as much or as little as you wish.

Hi all x

There is much anxiety and for we who have anxiety and depression it will quite possibly increase these feelings.

I have lived an isolated life for over 2 years but now it’s forced
on me and taken away my plans to overcome isolation.

Acceptance can be difficult

Morning all. I wonder how much damaged this virus has done to us who are already anxious and depressed! I've been sleeping dreadfully, stomach constantly in knots, I get this even when going on holidays but this time is 100 times worse. But this morning I was grateful for the sunshine, for the garden, we've got shelter and food which is a lot more than other people have. Have a nice day everyone.

Night all
Welcome Gossamer.
Joce thanks a mil for Budgie advice.
Sleep well tonight pg
Dawn xx

Thank you everyone for the lovely welcome.

Sleep well.

Hello all. Hope you've had good days and each are able to find something to lift your spirits as the season starts changing. Thank you so much for your mention, Joce and Lavender. and yes, thank you both, I am fine.

I didn't want to just disappear without a word because you have all been so kind but I did have quite a think after reading Annie's comment about content on Sunday last. I have to say I came across this thread by accident when I joined Gransnet. Instead of a fair amount of argument and even rudeness and sniping which was apparent on some threads, I read through every page here and could only see warmth, interest, empathy and kindness between everyone. I suppose I never gave any thought as to whether my prattling (at length, sorry) about anything and everything was either relevant or appropriate for this thread which has obviously been set up to help and support anyone who is coping with anxiety, depression, stress etc. So, now I have thought, I've decided not to post on this thread again. I will probably read about you all from time to time, because I'm interested, but I won't post. I'm not in any way hurt or upset - but I do just want to say sorry for rather stupidly straying into a place where perhaps my contributions don't really fit.
I send warmest wishes to all of you. Please stay safe, continue to help and care for each other - and get strong. Night night x

gossamerbeynon welcome ?. You too had a hard time when so young.
annie I can’t begin to comprehend what it must have been like for you to be suddenly on your own with two young children. How frightening that must have been and coping with the loss of your husband too. You have been through so much but you always have such kindness and wise words for others. x
Hope everyone else is ok. Take care all ?