Mumofmadboys whenever I see your posts I know that your advice will be sensible, compassionate and measured.
I think this link that you have posted to the doctor's article has some very honest, thoughtful and helpful observations, particularly about the care and support we should offer in the community.
As a humanist however the idea that God allowed this, foreknew this, and loves us, does not encourage me to believe in a supernatural being, who appears to be entertaining himself at the expense of us mere mortals.