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Magme Tue 28-Jul-20 18:34:19

I have recently started to think I may have dementia. I know it’s not just about being forgetful, which has effected me since the menopause. I get confused, I struggle to do easy tasks and things I would have done with ease I now can’t do without really struggling. An example of this is making some simple masks following a YouTube tutorial. I’ve made 6 and each time I’ve had to watch the tutorial again, usually after getting it wrong and unpicking.
I often can’t remember the name of a tv programme I’m watching and even after I ask my husband, 10 minutes later I’ve forgotten again.
I used to have a busy, stressful and responsible job and yet I struggle to do easy things now and I’ve lost confidence.
I’m scared to go to the GP in case I have dementia as I know how awful it is which will depress me, and I can’t see how knowing will help. I haven’t discussed it with my husband as he will tell me I’m being silly and that it’s normal to be like this as we get older. I’m 59 years old. Can anyone offer any insight or advice please?

Namsnanny Tue 28-Jul-20 18:51:58

Hello Magme, I dont have any experience of relatives with dementia, but I can relate to your fear.
If it helps, your post was written so concisely that to a lay person like me it would seem unlikely. flowers
Others will have advice I'm sure.

Namsnanny Tue 28-Jul-20 18:53:15

The thing is you probably will be better off discussing it with your husband, or else you will have to look up stuff on the internet, and that can be a bit worrying to read.

Namsnanny Tue 28-Jul-20 18:54:34

A quick look at the health forum and there are discussions about dementia or people caring for others with it. If you want some info.

BlueSky Tue 28-Jul-20 19:14:11

Magme at times it's better to leave well alone, if it helps both my DH and I cannot remember the names of people on TV or old colleagues which we do know, we often forget what we were going to Google soon after mentioning it, and lots more. So I think it's pretty normal at a certain age, what would you gain if you were diagnosed anyway? Just stress and worry.

Izabella Tue 28-Jul-20 19:23:56

I have Alzheimer's and am still able to (mostly) write a cogent and informative post. You have two choices: 1. do nothing and worry 2. see your GP and and be assessed and take things from there.

I have written on other forums the benefits of getting a diagnosis - and there are many. However, I have always been a glass half full person and grasp life by the horns. My current situation is no different. I take each day as it comes, have a new bucket list and a fuckitbucket and a short retort for those who say it is a just a normal part of ageing.

To confront your concerns I would suggest a GP visit and take control. Good luck and pm me if it helps.

Chewbacca Tue 28-Jul-20 19:29:54

fuckitbucket that's the best thing I've seen for a long time Izabella; everyone should have one of those!

TrendyNannie6 Tue 28-Jul-20 19:46:02

If it was me I would go to the Gp as I’d want to know one way or the other, having looked after a close member who had Alzheimer’s vascular dementia, but I will also say though, in times of stress I’ve forgotten things, but dementia is not a normal part of aging! Best wishes Magme

Franbern Tue 28-Jul-20 19:57:12

Magme, you need to discuss this with your GP. There are many reasons why you could be having these problems and sometimes they can be very simply sorted out. For example, a lack of Vitamen B12 is one cause of forgetfullness etc. A blood test could show if you are low in this and pills can quicly remedy it The quicker you refer yourself to medical tests, the better.

TheFrugalPiggy Tue 28-Jul-20 19:59:52

Magmelike a lot of us you've probably spent a lot of time away from the rest of the human race, not having lots of day to day interaction with others, basically detached from the world in many ways. My husband and I, as well as several friends, have discussed feeling mentally "confused", struggled to remember words for things, not been able to concentrate easily on information etc. I certainly feel that the lockdown has played havoc with my mental agility.

Grandmafrench Tue 28-Jul-20 20:04:20

Please don't not share your concerns and worries with your DH. If you are anxious, you must tell him and maybe work out a plan, as Izabella suggests, which should involve speaking to your GP. It's possible that it could be something to do with the rotten way life has changed over the last 6 months, some medication you are taking, extra stress, anything. It's your life, much better to take control of it and face the future without all the anxiety.

MissAdventure Tue 28-Jul-20 20:07:18

There are other things that can mimic dementia.
Lack of vitamin (b12?) stress, and so on.
It would be worth getting checked out to see what exactly is going on.

kittylester Tue 28-Jul-20 20:28:48

Or a bladder infection!

I call it having lockdown brain. My mind is mush currently. I hope I recover.

Seriously, I would talk to your gp. And sont worry as that wont help either.

Chewbacca Tue 28-Jul-20 20:46:54

Or a bladder infection

That's a good point kittylester, bladder infections in older people do cause confusion and forgetfulness. So definitely worth a trip to the GP and taking a water sample with you, just to check.

kittylester Tue 28-Jul-20 21:00:35

Er ....the op is 59, chewbacca, she's not old. I'm 71 and I'm not any where near old.

Chewbacca Tue 28-Jul-20 21:21:58


Magme Tue 28-Jul-20 21:39:02

Thank you all for your suggestions and I have to admit that I hadn’t thought of any other reasons for my confusion and utter nonsense way of living at the moment. I suffered quite badly with memory loss with the menopause to the extent that I would be full flow at a meeting talking about something I knew really well, then my brain would dump the rest of what I was going to say! Embarrassing to say the least. I love the Fuckitbucket. I will get checked out (without letting my husband know) and take it from there.

BlueBelle Tue 28-Jul-20 22:18:13

I think worrying about it is half the problem. I forget loads but I m not concerned because all my friends seem exactly the same I can forget something, finally remember it only to forget it again, my recall is slower, but sometimes I can beat my grandkids in answers If I forget a word the more I try to remember it the longer it takes as soon as I forget about it it pops into my head Stress can cause this
I can still do sudukos daily and beat lots of people in word puzzles and still do them quickly I still know my tables and my world geography
If I was ever to get Alzheimer’s I don’t want to know I don’t want to see GPS and specialists I want to carry on until I can’t I don’t want medication to delay it all My friend is on medication and she’s not a problem and she’s alive but she’s got no life