Well, the bed has arrived but nothing else seems to be in place.
It seems to me (I live 200 miles away) that the two sons are not showing a united front to the hospital staff.
The elder son (my SIL) has been doing most of the caring and arrangement making, but younger son has arrived on the scene like a whirlwind, full of enthusiasm and 'good ideas' about putting 'packages' in place - then clearing off home and leaving it all to my SIL and daughter.
This sounds like sour grapes, but to my mind the hospital are listening to the younger son who is a forceful personality and is very good looking and cheerful. Whereas my SIL is (lets face it) no oil painting and frankly worn out and weary after 18 months of running round after his mother, including being woken up in the night by phone calls because she's had a bad dream or feels dizzy. She's too ill for that now, but you get the picture.
He seems to have run out of steam, and the hospital must be so pleased to have this new energetic brother making rash promises of full time round the clock care, not realising that the care he's promising is that of my daughter and SIL - not on his own behalf.
My daughter and SIL must learn to stand up to him but frankly they are tired out, and both working full time (still).
The lady lives in her own flat, not with them as their house is tiny. (and they have cats, which she hates).
And the younger brother is so full of energy and charm!