I am afraid this a long post for a first post I hope someone will bear with me & signpost to the best approach.
I 'care' for my Mum's ex next door neighbour they were neighbours for 50+ years so we were raised with Aunty Mary although she was no relative.My parents died & we just carried on visiting etc as you would a family member. She had a fall two weeks ago & a neighbour called an ambulance as she is 97 years old. She has always been independent no carers we do shopping washing etc but day to day she microwaved her meals went to bed etc by her self. She walked down the stairs after the fall & recognised everyone. She had tests & was transferred to a rehabilitation hospital. She can not according to them walk now even thoug she had xrays & scans & has no physical damage. They are trying to say she is not mentally aware I visited the hospital yesterday she knew who I was I took her photos & she knew all the people she knew she wants to go home etc etc she is exactly the same as she has been for the past few years mentally.The nurse was saying she won't have a drink unless you actually tell her she has to which is nonsense due to my & my families observations at visiting.They have catheterized her when she was going to the toilet independently barring the odd accident due to her being slow.The hospital constantly refer to her having no family but we are her family the only one she has ever had. They keep telling her to lie down & her feet are swollen now which has never happened before when I asked the nurse she said she should get on the bed & have a rest that would be a rest from sitting down.She said we don't encourage them to move in case they fall. The deterioration will be rapid if they won't let her move. Now they are wanting to do a mental capacity test and I have said I want her to have someone there as she is hearing impaired. I know this is a tale of woe but I don't want her to end up in a home or bed ridden for no reason. What can I do I have complained to PALS today is there anywhere else I can go maybe an advocate if they won't let us help I am really worried.
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