I’m sorry but refusing to get washed and dressed, lying on a sofa all day, eating three rich tea biscuits for breakfast and supper, eating a slice of toast or a jam sandwiches for lunch and dinner, refusing any suggestions designed to help, only accepting help from her daughter and son in law who are in their late sixties and expecting them to do absolutely everything and basically be her carers, refusing to have her cleaner back after lockdown and thinking we should do it even though we had other childcare responsibilities, what is she doing right? Is it your opinion that we should become her carers? She certainly didn’t spend her retirement caring for her mother, she put her in a home! By the time my mother was 56, her mother had sadly died, so she certainly wasn’t a carer aged 67. I am 67 and recovering from Covid. I can’t be a carer any longer to her. Prior to my being ill, we brought her here every Sunday, for roast dinner in the winter, barbecue in the summer, and on Saturday for sandwiches and cake. I baked and made quality food. My mother had absolutely no problem eating the food we provided and frequently had seconds. She loved the banoffee pie I made and the sticky toffee pudding. Absolutely no problem eating lots of those.
If she was doing everything right perhaps I should have left her to lie on her sofa all day and eat rubbish, perhaps I shouldn’t have worried about that. Every single day before I had Covid she told me she was ill and felt sick. Every single day! Now she’s got carers she doesn’t say she’s ill because she’s getting care, including proper food. She’ll probably live longer as a result of getting carers. If I was a nasty daughter maybe I wouldn’t have been bothered but I’ve done the best I can, in the middle of my own illness, to get her a better quality of life, for however long that may be.