Sudden death

It’s awful, especially when young, such a shock to the families and friends, however when you’ve had a full life it’s the best way to go, I would rather that than a painful decline or nursing homes.

It must have been so difficult to say farewell, Tizliz.

My friend’s mum died suddenly last week, with no warning at all, in her early 70’s.

My daughter once told me that I was an “odd” person and that’s why I don’t have many friends. I then met another “odd” person, who I totally related to and we became good friends for about 2 years. She then died suddenly at the age of 50, totally unexpectedly. I was distraught and found it harder to get over than when my parents died. That was 30 years ago and still have never met anyone who fitted so well with me.

So hard TizLiz. My cousin died totally unexpectedly a couple of months ago, Such a shock and like you said, so awful for their families

So much sorrow. Grandmattie you are in my thoughts.

Tizliz

The funeral was today. It was shown on line, never heard of that before. I was talking to his boss about it and it was because the funeral was so far from his work. He thought about 1400 colleagues watched it. I never knew much about his work life. It was heartbreaking that he was respected by so many people.

I suppose it is good technology can help with respect to funerals. My friend found it a comfort when she lost her husband last year x

I'm sorry
I don't think families do get over it to be honest. My husband found his Dad who also died on the way to hospital and one of my siblings died suddenly, even though they were ill. It just doesn't make sense
Look after yourselves all xx

My friend died suddenly at 68, the age I am now. She and her husband went to bed, she was quite well, very fit, took no medication. He woke up the next morning to find her dead in bed beside him. 2 post-mortems found no reason.

It was an awful shock I had been friends with her since I was 18. It was worse because we didn’t know why. Her husband asked me to read the eulogy at her funeral, that was such a privilege

So sorry for both of you Grandmattie & Tizliz You have my sympathy

The funeral was today. It was shown on line, never heard of that before. I was talking to his boss about it and it was because the funeral was so far from his work. He thought about 1400 colleagues watched it. I never knew much about his work life. It was heartbreaking that he was respected by so many people.

My sister in law mentioned above was 49. She never got over losing her son, as of course you wouldn't.

Gosh, such sad, sad stories. to you all. Although I agree that sudden death, hopefully in one's own bed is preferable to a long drawn out decline, this wasn't the case in any of these cases where the people died far too young. My grandmother died of a sudden heart attack, at 69, with no hints of illness previously. I still remember that phone call.

He was 51.

My SiL found her husband dead on the kitchen floor when she returned home from shopping. He'd had a total knee replacement a few weeks before and was still on lots of painkillers. The post mortem showed he had died from a massive heart attack and the painkillers he was on had probably Masked the symptoms.
Such a shock for the entire family, they had four teenagers who took their father's death quite hard.

My uncle dropped dead at 61. Massive heart attack. He hadn't had any health issues previously.

I am so sorry, Tizliz, Grandmattie and all who’ve endured this pain.

As said below, it happens surprisingly often. In old age it may be seen as a blessing by some, but in youth, it’s so very cruel.

It is terrible that this happens so often, I have lived a very sheltered life. My feelings go out to you all

grandemattie How dreadful for you. Our nephew was 17 when he and his dad found their mum/wife dead. As mentioned on another thread, this same nephew found his dad collapsed two weeks ago from a massive stroke. We are praying for his recovery. I can't believe my nephew has gone through this twice. All good wishes to your family.

I'm sorry to all of you who have had to experience this. It certainly sisn't uncommon Monica, you are right

Tizliz

grandMattie?

This happened in our family too. My youngest brother literally dropped down dead at the age of 52. He was alone in the house at the time as he worked nights and everyone else was out. My youngest nephew returned from college to find his dad halfway up or down the stairs. PM said he had a massive stroke. |It was my SIL birthday when he died which added to the tradgey. The whole family were devestated and it has taken years for us to come to terms with his loss.

Oh grandMattie - so, so sorry. I hope you get the strength to cope

After my sister died I was surprised to discover how common this experience is. Whether accident or a sudden illness and death. Almost everyone I met who had reason to know of my sister's death seemed to have experienced the sudden loss of someone significant. The commonality of this experience was very comforting.

So many sad stories. My mother died when I was 18. She was 60 . I was the only child of elderly parents . She was taken ill suddenly and appendicitis diagnosed. She didn't survive the surgery. Looking back , so many clues were missed. She had a thyroid condition and , instead of having regular check ups , she simply got repeat prescriptions ! We are going back over 50 years. This wouldn't happen nowadays. The PM showed heart failure due to her pituitary gland not functioning. Totally treatable but she never went near a doctor. No counselling in those days. I just got on with life as you had to. My Dad was great and I had several Aunties so we coped.

Condolences to those who have been bereaved.
I read an article in National Geographic magazine many years ago on Sudden Unexplained Death Syndrome. Apparently it is well known and, as someone else has said, usually affects young men who appear healthy.