visits and phone calls and emails etc when you're feeling poorly

Sorry wrong thread !

BBC News : Azeem Rafiq has apologised and said he is "deeply ashamed" for using anti-Semitic language in Facebook messages from 2011

So many skeletons in the closets, everyone in the public eye must be on edge as the magnifying glasses are out dissecting everything they’ve ever said/done in the past - this can’t be healthy as it must dilute and distract from the bigger issues.
It’s like when they say ‘lessons will be learnt’ - actually learn from them and not just give lip service!
Discrimination, racism, bullying - needs stamping out - actions are needed going forward, people need to own their past failings, learn from them and move on and do better. What can hounding people and victimisation do really, individuals and organisations need to look to the future and do better.
Social media and the news outlets need to do better.
Bring back common sense, morals and human kindness!

If you have a voicemail service, re-record your outgoing message and say thank you for calling, but due to illness you can’t answer the phone at the moment. Be reassuring that you’re OK - just not feeling up to talking. Ask them to either leave a message and you will call back when you feel better, or to email/text you and you will answer when you’re up to it.

I did this quite successfully when I was getting over Covid earlier this year, and my friends were very understanding. Hope you feel better soon.?

I wish people would contact me....you are so lucky. I hope you feel better soon. I was vaccinated against Shingles many years ago thank goodness.

Oh polnan I hope that you’re doing okay

I agree with nadateturbe, just don’t answer the phone and text them.
I find texting the answer to many things. I know that when one is poorly you can tend to overthink stuff, and get a bit depressed.
I hope that you feel better soon. My dad had a terrible time with shingles a few years back. He couldn’t leave the house as he felt so disfigured and had trouble seeing. It’s an awful thing
for you too Marmite

Sorry to hear you’ve got shingles -it’s a horrid virus. Hope your GP has prescribed anti-viral medication (eg Acyclovir) - it certainly mitigated the symptoms in my case. Hope you get better soon ?.

I wish I had friends and family who could..... would.... life I think is very hard on most of us at this time.

I sympathise but if you’re on your own your family need to keep in touch with you. You’re very lucky that you have friends and family who care when so many elderly people have absolutely no contact with anyone. I know I sound crabby but I think when you’re better you’ll look back and be happy that you have a caring family and friends. Are you getting the medical care that you need?

If any of my family rings and I'm not feeling good I don't answer the phone. I message and say sorry not feeling well enough to talk. Is it anything urgent?

Yes, just say, it's lovely of you to call/email. I really don't want to talk about me, it just makes me feel worse. Tell me what you've been up to?

If they are true friends they will understand.

Could you just say thank you for calling and how much you appreciate it but currently you’re feeling so unwell that you don’t feel like chatting?

You’re lucky to have a few people who are concerned about your welfare. I hope you’re feeling better soon. Shingles is awful. ?

It's hard, marmite. Sometimes, I find, an outburst of exasperation is actually what's needed. Then they remember the weariness you're living with. All the best