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Kate1949 Sat 12-Mar-22 13:52:45

I think I may be developing this condition. My anxiety seems to be progressing to not wanting to go out after a couple of embarrassing incidents. My GP gave me beta blockers (after looking at me as though I was mad). They were useless. Has anyone suffered like this?

FannyCornforth Sat 12-Mar-22 13:57:16

Yes. Antidepressants helped for me.
Others find CBT helpful.
Can you self refer for talking therapy?
Speak to your GP
Good luck Katethanksbrew

Kate1949 Sat 12-Mar-22 14:32:39

Thank you Fanny. I will investigate self referral.

Grandmashe43 Sat 12-Mar-22 14:55:15

Remember Kate All Things Must Pass, (our George) said it and it did for me, I had agoraphobia , had horrid panic attacks outside, and In shops , all over the place.
My girls were young and it was a nightmare,antidepressants worked for me, took a while, but I got there.
Be kind to yourself, one day and one step at at time.
Sending you my very best wishes.

Kate1949 Sat 12-Mar-22 14:57:54

Thank you *Grandmashe".

TryingToHelp Sat 12-Mar-22 15:14:05


I think I may be developing this condition. My anxiety seems to be progressing to not wanting to go out after a couple of embarrassing incidents. My GP gave me beta blockers (after looking at me as though I was mad). They were useless. Has anyone suffered like this?

Yes. Many years ago.
My GP suggested an NHS Clinical Psychologist. A Clinical Psychologist is not a Psychiatrist, the two are different.
My GP arranged it.
Fortunately it got activated in about a week.
Various meetings.
Very helpful.
What really helped was one day the clinical psychologist had a recently got book.
In case any clinical psychologist you may meet might recognise the book, it was thick, about an inch and a quarter or more and had the word Agoraphobia in large letters all along the spine.
I was handed two or three pages of photocopied pages from the book, a section headed Client's Guide.
It really really helped.
One thing, I wondered if I was going mad. I asked. I was told it is not madness. It is the mind and body's reaction to too much going on.
There was too much going on for me. A combination of two unrelated stressful situations happening at about the same time.
Here is some sunshine for you sunshine

Kate1949 Sat 12-Mar-22 15:26:27

Thank you TryingtoHelp. Yes I do believe it is stress overload. A person can only take so much and then something has to give. Thanks everyone.

paddyann54 Sat 12-Mar-22 15:34:04

Try to stand at the door for a few minutes and tomorrow progress into your garden ,If you can go a little farther every couple of days without panicking it wll give you the confidence to go further.
Good luck with it ,I have agrophobia when I get stressed ,the above was suggested by a mental health nurse that saw me at home a few years ago.It did work but take it slowly .

GrandmaSeaDragon Sat 12-Mar-22 15:37:31

Yes! Started with panic attacks when out (first one on a Thames riverboat trip) which made me feel it was safer not to go out. At first, I was given pills, probably Valium. I had such a bad reaction I stopped it, otherwise I wonder if I could have become addicted (late 70s). Over the years, I’ve had various forms of counselling, read loads of book and listened to many other stories. I always feel I’m not a good Mum as there were days when I just could not go out or even drop them off somewhere. Both my DDs are in their forties now and wonderful, balanced mums to our 5DGC.
I am trying very hard now not to let it all creep back, but being depressed and living in a rather cliquey village, it is often easier to stay at home. One of the reasons we have a dog, is to encourage me to go out every day. Lockdown has not helped, now we can go out, it’s sometimes a real effort to step over the front door threshold. Kate do you have a friend who could go out with you to places that you like (doesn’t have to be far from home, park, favourite shop) and when you are a little more confident, go to wherever the incidents happened? I always tried to do that on my own after panic attacks, because if I hadn’t, I would have given up ever going there again. I’m sorry your GP seemed so unsympathetic, try self referral (although probably a long waiting time if as our area and the number of sessions are limited). Breathing exercises can help too. Please don’t let your anxiety escalate.

Kate1949 Sat 12-Mar-22 15:44:29

Thank you. I'm not at the stage where I'm not going out yet. I had an incident this week where my hands started to shake - I'm not ill, it's nerves. I was out in a crowded place and I had a drink in my hand and it went everywhere - all over my coat, dress and the floor. Fortunately it was white wine which didn't show but I am now in dread of it happening again.

TryingToHelp Sat 12-Mar-22 16:08:43

The clinical psychologist told me that I was fortunate that my GP had referred me to a clinical psychologist directly, as some patients had arrived after having been referred to a psychiatrist and the psychiatrist had realised the patient did not need a psychiatrist and transferred the patient to a clinical psychologist.

I remember there were three chairs in the room. The clinical psychologist's chair and two patient chairs, side by side, perhaps for a couple or for someone and a companion.

I, going in to the consulting room (but not travelling there) alone, always sat in the same chair. The chairs were different colours.

One day I said that when I felt better I would sit in the other chair. I don't know why I said that. Some goal for me, I don't know.

When I got better, the clinical psychologist had remembered this and asked if I wanted to move to the other chair.

I said no, it doesn't matter now.