IpadG I’ve got everything crossed for you. As Silver says, the waiting is hard, and you seem to have been waiting with knobs on!
Hello Grannytomany, and welcome to the thread!
I think that you know deep down that you need to have it done.
There’s almost nothing to be scared of. I haven’t heard anyone say anything that wasn’t 100 per cent positive about their outcome.
Like you, I had lots of referred pain; mainly a trapped nerve in my spine.
The surgeon was 50/50 whether the op would sort it out, but it has.
But unlike you, I had absolutely no qualms about the op, I would have limped over hot coals to have it done!
You are very fortunate to have a date. I had to go private or I would have had to wait over two years. You don’t know how long you will have to wait if you turn down the op this time.
Do you mind me asking how old you are? I only ask because you say that your husband is much older (mine is too)
Anyway - yes, I’d say go for it! 