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Teacheranne Fri 15-Jul-22 22:27:25

When my mum was first diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, the consultant told us that she was fine to continue driving as she was at a very early stage. She did not have to go for an assessment. We informed her insurance company and they were fine with it. Mum did make the decision to stop driving a few months later as she had an incident when she could not remember where she had left the car and it worried her. Luckily she was then 84 and had enough money to afford taxis and was confident shopping online. Her AZ did not really impact on her ability to live independently for over four years but she did go downhill really quickly at the end.

Doodledog Fri 15-Jul-22 19:45:40

I agree with Mine. If the family know of his diagnosis it is up to them to decide how to handle it. As you say, Molly, if there are further incidents it might make a difference, but for now I would say nothing.

Mollygo Fri 15-Jul-22 19:39:27

kircubbin2000

My friends husband has been diagnosed but is allowed to drive after an assessment.

That’s why I don’t really want to step in and suggest anything. I often see my neighbour whilst walking the dog, so I thought I’d just ask her how her uncle is. If something happens though . . .

kircubbin2000 Fri 15-Jul-22 19:11:07

My friends husband has been diagnosed but is allowed to drive after an assessment.

Smileless2012 Fri 15-Jul-22 16:53:02

I agree Mine.

Mine Fri 15-Jul-22 16:51:00

I would accept your neighbours apology an keep quiet....I'm sure his family will be aware of his situation...Sometimes families get angry if you poke your nose in....If the man keeps parking on your driveway then that's a different case...

NotSpaghetti Fri 15-Jul-22 16:25:18

I would stroll down to the new neighbour and say you have been pondering on the situation and think she (or another family member) should gently and kindly suggest he may need to ask his doctor or the memory clinic about driving.

I think she hasn't really thought this through.
Just say it's been on your mind and you are concerned about both him and other people.

Calendargirl Fri 15-Jul-22 15:50:45

Oopsadaisy1

If she has only fairly recently moved in maybe he wasn’t sure where she lived?

But then he walked to her house, the OP has told us. So how did he know where to walk to? He couldn’t have asked at the house he had parked at, as she was out.

?

Oopsadaisy1 Fri 15-Jul-22 14:05:18

If she has only fairly recently moved in maybe he wasn’t sure where she lived?

M0nica Fri 15-Jul-22 14:03:20

I thought if the Memory Clinic said you had dementia, your licence was immediately suspended until you had a full assessment. That is what happened to my uncle.

If your house was a distance form this neighbours and he still parked there, I would think he was unfit to drive.

welbeck Thu 14-Jul-22 23:13:16

could you say to the neighbour, is he safe ro drive ?
after all, sadly dementia is a progressive disease, and who's to tell the exact moment when he fails to read the road correctly, mounts the kerb, drives against the on-coming traffic, endangering himself as well as others.
if she is young, neighbour may not understand all the implications of dementia.

Grannmarie Thu 14-Jul-22 22:28:50

Mollygo, I share your concerns. I remember being shocked when a dear friend who was receiving chemo told me that her volunteer driver had informed her that he had ' mild dementia '. I really don't know what the guidelines are about dementia sufferers continuing to drive.

This is Kitty's area of expertise, maybe she'll see this thread and advise.

Mollygo Thu 14-Jul-22 22:23:11

I don’t want to do anything, but I didn’t understand why he would park on my drive and then walk off down the road to my neighbour’s house.
My neighbour is in her late thirties, so I imagine her uncle is in his fifties. That’s really sad, but I wonder if he should be driving. Wrong house this time, could be wrong road or wrong motorway next time.

Sweetpeasue Thu 14-Jul-22 22:20:59

NotSpaghetti

I would worry that he's not safe to drive.
If he is like that, even some of the time he really shouldn't be putting himself and everyone else at risk.

This. I agree.

NotSpaghetti Thu 14-Jul-22 21:40:14

I would worry that he's not safe to drive.
If he is like that, even some of the time he really shouldn't be putting himself and everyone else at risk.

Aldom Thu 14-Jul-22 21:21:49

Please, just accept your neighbour's apology. My husband did many strange things in the early stages of his 'young onset dementia'. He even walked into the wrong house on one occasion. Hopefully parking on your drive was a genuine mistake which won't happen again.

Mollygo Thu 14-Jul-22 21:14:32

I arrived home to find a strange car on my drive. A relatively new neighbour arrived to apologise, saying her uncle had left it there by mistake, explaining that he had dementia-“but only the early stages”.