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Worried about memory clinic appointment

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Gossamerbeynon1945 Mon 04-Mar-24 20:50:55

My husband has severe aphasia, which from what I have ensures that he will get dementia at some stage. Earlier he had an affair with a work colleague. Don't know whether I should stay or go. I have AMD and will be blind soon.

granfromafar Mon 04-Mar-24 20:39:09

Sorry, Cossy. Flipping autocorrect!

granfromafar Mon 04-Mar-24 20:38:28

Thanks for the replies so far.
Jenz48, yes, it could be cognitive impairment but it's still hard to deal with on a daily basis. Let's see what tomorrow brings.
Cosy: You're so right!

Jenz48 Mon 04-Mar-24 20:05:38

No words of wisdom but I was in a similar situation some months ago - convinced my DH would be diagnosed with dementia but the consultant called it mild cognitive impairment. DH was in fine form that day and made my concerns seem a waste of time. As time has gone on I am nearly 100% certain he has some form of dementia but getting to see anyone is virtually impossible. He has very few outward symptoms but having lived with him for 54 years he definitely has issues, but no one seems to see them or recognise anything untoward. I really sympathise with you and hope your health professionals are more helpful than mine.

Cossy Mon 04-Mar-24 19:24:50

No massive words of wisdom here either, other than just deal with things as, and when, they happen. Your husband may not have dementia, just poor memory and general grumpiness.

Wishing you both luck flowers

Whiff Mon 04-Mar-24 19:16:01

Sorry no words of real wisdom . My mom had dementia and cancer she lived with me the last 18 months of her life. When she forgot things but I knew she could still do them like brushing her teeth ,having a wash I talked her through what to do. Dementia took everything from my mom she died 4 months before her body and unfortunately became violent but it was out of fear she didn't know who she was where or who I was. She thought I was her mom. She insisted on wearing a pad but dementia took everything from my mom apart from knowing when she needed the commode. My mom never wet or soiled herself and I am proud of the fact when bed ridden she never had a sore on her body I made sure of that.

I know there is a drug that slows down dementia and Alzheimer's perhaps your husband will beable to have it if he has one of them .

granfromafar Mon 04-Mar-24 18:21:12

OH has an appointment tomorrow, after a wait of nearly a year. He had a CT scan about 10 months ago, which, to my surprise, didn't show any abnormalities. He was told 'nothing unusual for his age' (74). GP suggested a referral to the memory clinic, which has finally come round. His memory has got worse over the last year, and I have also noticed some behavioural changes. I'm expecting the worst (some form of dementia). I looked after my mother, who had Alzheimers in her latter years, so know what the future could hold. Maybe I'm jumping the gun, but can't help being concerned. Any words of wisdom from those who have been in a similar situation?