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Doodle Sat 16-Mar-24 16:49:37

For the support, understanding and sharing of mental health issues.
All are welcome. We treat each other with kindness.

Scaredycat Thu 04-Apr-24 19:05:33

So sorry Whiff - hope it isn’t too painful for you. Will be thinking of you too and we,ll miss youxx

Sweetpeasue Thu 04-Apr-24 19:59:54

Candy So glad you're enjoying your free time after such a big decision to leave work. Walking on the beach with your dog and having your very own time to do what you want must be such a great change from having to meet deadlines for work. So pleased for you.
HVDY Thanks- You've answered one of my concerns about radar keys -I wasn't sure if I had to be officially disabled to use them. You reminded me about first taking my DGS to feed the ducks- he wasn't fussed at first. A few mths later he was much more interested and used to make us laugh by eating the bread.
Scaredycat It must be heartbreaking to see the deterioration in your friend and her DH. Dementia is a terrible thing and so sad to see in anyone . I've been thinking a lot lately on how we often put off doing things or going places until a later time --when everything will be just right. But just making the most of each day is important too. Not always easy to do- you're right. I married my first husband at 18 too. I'm so sorry about the dreadful loss of your son Scaredycat. It is unthinkable to lose one of your own ,I'm just so sorry.
Doodle I want to echo every word that Scaredycat has said. I too will be thinking about you tomorrow and hoping you get a good night's rest. You have had so much and you are an amazing lady. X
Nadateturbe Take care of yourself and hoping you're OK.
Wyllow Goodnight and know we all care.

Not a bad day at all today but very tires.Wishing everyone a peaceful night. X

Sweetpeasue Thu 04-Apr-24 20:02:27

Whiff Just seen your post. So sorry you're not well. My sister is prone to getting Shingles and it's really horrible. Hope you are soon feeling better and your medication will help quickly. X

nadateturbe Thu 04-Apr-24 21:57:03

Doodle* I am saying much needed prayers for you and sending love.

Scaredycat great sadness indeed losing your son so young. 💐 I can empathise a bit as we almost lost ours at 16. (In a coma 10 days).

Sweetpeasue I've read your post. You've had such an awful time. And nothing resolved. Very hard for you to cope with.x

Whiff hope you feel better soon. Take care.
*
EllieAnne please go to your daughter and give yourself a break from this intolerable home situation.

Sorry, my post is short. My eyes can't cope with screens for long.

HVDY Candy Wyllow3 and anyone else on BD, wishing you a peaceful night.xx.

HowVeryDareYou2 Thu 04-Apr-24 22:10:32

Scaredycat 3 children by the age of 24 must have been a lot of work. I was 22 when Son1 was born, then almost 25 when I had Son2.

Doodle Sorry to hear that. Hope all goes well tomorrow. Fingers crossed for you that things are sorted out quickly.

Whiff Hope you haven't got it too badly and that you're better soon.

HowVeryDareYou2 Thu 04-Apr-24 22:17:45

Scaredycat Losing a son at such a young age (any age really) must have been awful. My brother died at 21 and my parents were never really the same after that.

Had a nice day - day centre, which was good, with quizzes and chats. I didn't have lunch, just a bit of the pudding - which was, unusually, very disappointing (apple pie, not very good though). Lovely evening at Son1's, with his girls, his GF, her son, the dog smile. Son did home-made burgers (beef, chorizo, garlic, herbs and paprika in), home-made fries. Hope ALL BDers have a restful night x

Wyllow3 Thu 04-Apr-24 23:56:57

Night night dear BD's.

Sweetpeasue Fri 05-Apr-24 10:24:35

Doodle Thinking about you today and sending love.

nadateturbe Fri 05-Apr-24 12:50:10

Me too.x

Scaredycat Fri 05-Apr-24 13:34:25

Me tooxx

Doodle Fri 05-Apr-24 13:38:38

Sorry all. Be missing for a bit . Heart problem needs sorting I have too much to organise. Will be missing a while love to all.xx

Scaredycat Fri 05-Apr-24 13:48:35

Doodle- so sorry - we will miss you but only wish for the best outcome from whatever treatment it is you need.
Your boys I am sure will be there for you both- there will be so much to do but take plenty of rest too in between. Look after yourself you are precious.

nadateturbe Fri 05-Apr-24 14:27:47

Echoing Scaredycat's words.
Your health is the most important thing Doodle.
Sending love.x

Sweetpeasue Fri 05-Apr-24 16:05:50

Oh Doodle I am sorry to hear that. As Scaredycat says so well ,you are precious and you need to look after yourself. Let your boys help as much as they can and I wish you a quick recovery from whatever treatment is needed. Sending love and a huge hug.x

HowVeryDareYou2 Fri 05-Apr-24 17:06:37

Doodle I'm sorry to hear that. Please take care to rest as much as you can, and let your lovely family help out. Hope you soon feel much better x

How has everyone else been today?

nadateturbe Fri 05-Apr-24 19:44:54

Glad you had a nice day yesterday HVDY. It sounded lovely.
I've had better weeks, but hey "Tomorrow is another day" !
Thinking more about dear Doodle.
Glad yesterday was better Sweetpeasue

Hello everyone on BD. Hope you are OK1.x

Doodle Fri 05-Apr-24 21:01:21

Sorry all. Serious heart problem needs operation at London hospital. Not sure when I’ll be admitted as it’s all up in the air a bit. I have a lot to sort out about DH and myself so won’t be posting for a bit but will when I know when I get my head together. Take care all xx

Sweetpeasue Fri 05-Apr-24 21:44:34

Doodle I'm really sorry you're going through all of this and I can only say you are in my thoughts and prayers. You will get the very best of care there, I'm sure, and let the family take care of your DH. You must get better yourself now .
Sending you love and my very best wishes. A gentle hug too. 🫂 x

Decent morning and a small walk. Not so good right now but as Nadateturbe says 'Tomorrow is another day'. Was that what Scarlet 'O'Hara said?

Wishing all a peaceful night and a new and better day tomorrow. x

nadateturbe Fri 05-Apr-24 22:13:27

Scarlet O'Hara! Thank you Sweetpeasue. Couldn't remember. smile
Doodle You must look after yourself and your DH and not worry about posting.
I too am remembering you in my prayers continually.
Sweetpeasue Glad you managed a walk. It means a lot when we can achieve little things.
All I did today was bath and change pj's, but I managed to clear up after dinner. I'm officially old now, I have just bought a bedjacket! I'm awake most of the night and I need something cosy to sit up in.

Whiff Sat 06-Apr-24 05:54:15

Doodle I hope you have an operation date very quickly and take time to heal after it. You and your husband must be exhausted as it's been one worry about each others health especially the last 2 years after another. Hope your family rallies round and takes some of the load off both your shoulders.

Take very good care of yourselves. You give so much to others time to concentrate on yourself. 🤗💐

HowVeryDareYou2 Sat 06-Apr-24 08:30:18

Doodle It seems to have been one thing after another for you and your husband. I hope you are treated soon and your recovery goes well, quickly. You care so much for others and need to bother about yourself now. x

HowVeryDareYou2 Sat 06-Apr-24 10:12:30

It's a nice, sunny morning here, so I've got some washing on the line. Going to look for new trainers/shoes and perhaps call in to see Chubby Chops later. Hope ALL BDers manage to have a decent day x

Candy6 Sat 06-Apr-24 13:04:30

Afternoon all, just popped in as I’m at a football tournament watching GS and first opportunity I’ve had.
Doodle I’m sorry for your current situation. It must be so worrying for you. Try and take comfort from the fact that the best surgeons work at the best hospitals in the City so you will be well cared for. I used to comfort myself with that when my son was there. Stay strong and let your family help you as much as they can. Will be thinking of you.
Sweetpeasue I hope you are feeling better now and can get out for a bit.
HVDY happy shopping sound like you’ll have a nice day. I put some washing out too so hopefully that will be dry when we get back.
Whiff sorry for your shingles, I know it can be painful. Take care of yourself.
Hope everyone else is ok and you all have the best day possible xx

Ellie Anne Sat 06-Apr-24 17:40:09

So sorry Doodle. Praying everything goes well for you.

Sssd Sat 06-Apr-24 19:21:01

All the very best to you @Doddle and thanks for the warm welcome.

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