Yes Notagranyet, it’s was a horrible series of events. His prostate grew so large it completely blocked the urethra and he could not pass water (for over 26 hours), eventually they operated to put in a supra pubic Catheter but his ureters that came from the kidneys were damaged by the length of time it took for the hospital to do the operation. It was the most dreadful time, not being able to pass water and the pain was unbelievable. The ward nurse was so unkind. Some things I will never forget or forgive. Anyway, the idea then was to try to reduce the size of the prostate and then try again to pass water (it’s called a trial without catheter TWOC). I think the damage was so bad by then that nothing could be done. The consultant did do a particular operation to save his kidneys and ureters, which did work. He did say to me that when he opened my beloved husband up that it was a disaster waiting to happen inside him and the damage from the previous RT was horrendous. I’m not saying this to scare you, I can’t see this being the same for you. I guess I’m saying it because I’ve been told so often how lucky he was to survive 9 years with a terminal diagnosis and I always think, define luck! I hope your husband’s situation will settle, often it’s down to inflammation and not a dramatic event as explained above. There is a forum for prostate cancer sufferers run by the prostate cancer charity, it’s full of advice and idea. I don’t go there any more as it’s too painful for me, but it was a life saver at the time. Many women are there as well as men, men often don’t want to talk about these issues, but their partners do. Google the forum, it’s well worth a try and plenty of men will have had the same issue and have advice. I am thinking of you as I do know how frightening all this is. Please don’t think what happened to us will happen to you. We were very unlucky.
