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Friends health and fitness fail8ng

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Cambsnan Mon 03-Jun-24 18:24:00

I am in my early 70s and lucky enough to be in good health and reasonably fit. My friends are not so lucky and many of my closest friends are not very mobile. This is an increasing problem for holidays and days out. Am I being unreasonable in sometimes not inviting them as I want to go have an active day/break and they can’t keep up? I am not ready for a coach holiday.

MissAdventure Mon 03-Jun-24 18:28:12

No, it's not unreasonable at all.
You've a right to do what you enjoy, without being hampered by other people's restrictions.

madeleine45 Mon 03-Jun-24 19:04:38

Perhaps you could do both. If you want a very active day then off you go, but you could also do a half way version if you organise it beforehand. I have had friends and acquaintances who either were not so mobile, or could no longer drive. So I would be happy to do the driving and then there would be options. So I could offer to go to the coast , arranging to drop them off in an agreed place and then I may go off up the cliffs for a walk or whatever, and have an agreed time to pick them up. Or if they wanted to go somewhere where there were no buses we would work out an agreed trip and perhaps choose a pub lunch or just have the time to ourselves and share the fuel. If you tried it out , you will decide if it is something that you would enjoy or not. So, that way you can do a bit of both, so long as you agree before hand where and how you are going. Of course if you all agree you can change the plan but that way you know what you have agreed to . You might give it a try and see if it works for you., If you find it doesnt work out for you . you havent committed yourself to any set times, and if you enjoy it you can suggest another trip as and when it suits you.

madeleine45 Mon 03-Jun-24 19:07:45

sorry I did mean to say that we shared the fuel costs on those sort of trips too