Death of friend

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What a shame that all the medical help couldn't save your friend, Bazza. Condolences to you and her family

It is awful when your final memories of someone are so distressing. I am sending you sympathy and hope that earlier memories will be better revived.
I arrived at the deathbed of a lifelong friend 20 minutes after she died after much suffering. Her husband asked me to speak at her funeral, but I didn't feel able to, really because it was only three months after the death of my DH. But I miss her still.

I am so sorry. I hope that your memories of happier times spent with your friend will give you some comfort. I have lost family members and know how hard grief can be. Sending you a big hug.x

I am so sorry - both for your loss of a dear friend, and for the many difficulties which your friend faced in the last few months of her life.
I hope that you are able to eventually remember her with gratitude for the times you shared, and begin the forget the difficulties and diminishment of the last few months.

I am sorry to read about your friend Bazza.

Oh Bazza,this is so sad.May you remember the lovely person she was and that she’s not suffering now. Big hugs from me.x

I am sorry, Bazza. From your message, I can imagine how you feel.

Dear Bazza, my heart really goes out to you - there are no words or boxes to help you, except that me and all your
friends here totally understand a loss, and the sadness
you are feeling - its so hard and I’m not going to
suggest anything - only you know your feelings - but I
hope happier memories shine through the shock, tears
and loss.

Thank you for sharing your friend with me - It’s an
honour and we are all here for you. This is the beauty
of this site - the support, kindness - we are not alone.
My sincere condolences.

I am sorry for all you ladies death can be so cruel. Not the same my best friend who I met on my first day of my nurse training in 1962 has been diagnosed with dementia. We can no longer have our deep meaningful conversations. I miss my old mate so much. Remember the good times ladies x

It is horrible to think how things spiral from one incident. It is no wonder the loss of your friend in such a way hurts. Friends younger than me have died and it just makes me grateful for the fact that I am still here and still able to enjoy whatever time I have left. My condolences for your loss.

My condolences to all of you who have just lost a dear friend.

Do keep in touch with us here, if it helps you deal with the loss.

Bazza: one of the hardest things in life is to accept that a person had a difficult life and a prolonged period of illness before the end, and of illness that we feel could have been avoided or cured.

If there is an answer to this question, none of us know it, but I am sure we all feel for you and all others who cannot help but ask why this sort of thing has to be.

I so appreciate all of you that have taken the trouble to post your thoughts, kind wishes nd sympathies. Thank you, it has helped a lot

So sorry for the loss of your friend in such sad circumstances. MycDH has lost all his friends now it does come as such a shock he's just basically out lived them . The only consolation I can think for you is that she didn't suffer the indignity of dementia for too long . I'm glad you felt able to share your grief here and hope all our comments are some comfort to you..

Sorry for your loss

Oh goodness, Bazza, that is so sad. So sorry for your loss x

Bazza sorry your friend suffered so much. It's no consolation but she is free from pain and suffering as she was. I hope her family and friends can remember her as she was before all this started . But I know from bitter experience this will take time . 🌹

Just read about your dear friend so very sad. She had really been through a lot of pain now she is at rest.
It must be very difficult for you but you have your lovely cherished memories of your friend.
I have a few very close friends who I love dearly and dread not seeing them. We go back along way as I'm sure you did with your friend my deepest sympathy x

The poor woman, how dreadfully sad. 💐

My sincere condolences Sarnia. You just don’t expect such an awful outcome when someone goes into hospital with a broken leg. Particularly sad for you just before Christmas too.

That’s just awful Sarnia. My friend’s care was also abysmal, the staff didn’t seem to care if she ate or drank. Once dementia has set in they seem to forget. It’s just shameful in this day and age that a person can die from dehydration whilst in hospital. I suppose in time we will remember happier times.

So sorry for all of you who have lost loved ones.

I’m lucky not to have lost any close friends (yet!) and my heart goes out to all on this thread who have lost dear close friends

I know just how you feel Bazza
My one remaining cousin died just before Christmas. She fell down the last 3 stairs at her home and broke her femur. The operation to repair it went well but she also developed post-op dementia and quickly went downhill getting Covid, RSV and urinary infections one after another. When she was moved from the hospital to a care home, so shocked were the paramedics that they reported it to the relevant authorities. My niece had been concerned about her Mum's reluctance to eat and drink but was assured by the nurses that everything was fine. After her death the coroner intervened to alter the death certificate from the cause of death being sepsis to dehydration. It has upset me hugely that my cousin died of something as basic as not being given a drink of water. It is so hard to come to terms with but you and I will get through this and remember the good times we had with them.

Sorry to hear your news, Bazza: life can be cruel. Condolences to you .

Condolences and so sorry.