Gallbladadder op abandoned- really scared

Thanks everyone 😘

Good luck this week😊

Sillyoldbird

Crossstitchfan

Thought I’d just ‘pop in’ to see how you are feeling? Hope you are calm and coping 🍀

Crosstitchfan that’s very kind of you. I’m feeling a lot better about things thanks. I have both my scans next week but the results will not be until two or three weeks later.
I’ think what’s caused the problem is that I had a really bad gallbladder infection last year. Apparently this can cause adhesions so this may be why everything was stuck down and the procedure was abandoned. The scans will be able to see what approach they should take if they decide surgery is still appropriate.

Hello again, thanks for getting back to me. I am glad you seem to be a coping. It’s the waiting that’s the worst!
Hopefully the results will be favourable. Please let us know how you get on

For some reason, I only saw yiur thread today silly old bird. What a roller coaster experience, so frightening. There’s good advice and support here.
Not gall bladder but, I had complex cateract surgery as a result of several episodes of inflammatory eye disease, the pupils were sticky lots of adhesions. I didn’t have the cancer fear but it did complicate all kinds of things
I hope things are soon resolving

Crossstitchfan

Thought I’d just ‘pop in’ to see how you are feeling? Hope you are calm and coping 🍀

Crosstitchfan that’s very kind of you. I’m feeling a lot better about things thanks. I have both my scans next week but the results will not be until two or three weeks later.
I’ think what’s caused the problem is that I had a really bad gallbladder infection last year. Apparently this can cause adhesions so this may be why everything was stuck down and the procedure was abandoned. The scans will be able to see what approach they should take if they decide surgery is still appropriate.

Thought I’d just ‘pop in’ to see how you are feeling? Hope you are calm and coping 🍀

LadyGaGa

Glad you’re having a better day Sillyoldbird. Thinking of you x

Thanks LadyGaGa xx

Glad you’re having a better day Sillyoldbird. Thinking of you x

Silverlining thanks so much 👍

Hi silly old bird, glad you are feeling better today.

CrazyH I’m feeling much better. I’ve done a bit of research and had a good think and im feeling more positive now.

Thanks for asking - really appreciate it x

Sillyoldbird - been thinking of you. How are you feeling this morning? A bit better I hope. Some nice encouraging stories here. Keep posting whenever you feel like it.

Mouseybrown60

A fear of cancer is known as carcinophobia which is quite a common phobia Sillyoldbird.
I can remember when people called it The Big C as they were fearful of using the word cancer.
I had breast cancer in 2010, then uterine cancer diagnosed in 2021 and I’m still here!

It’s very good to hear that you’ve overcome your cancer diagnosis . Wishing you good health going forward x

A fear of cancer is known as carcinophobia which is quite a common phobia Sillyoldbird.
I can remember when people called it The Big C as they were fearful of using the word cancer.
I had breast cancer in 2010, then uterine cancer diagnosed in 2021 and I’m still here!

LadyGaGa

You’re welcome Sillyoldbird 🤣 I wish I was more like my sister in law. Her mantra is ‘only worry when you’ve got something definite to worry about’ She never seems to stress. But hey ho, it’s just how we are made. ChatGPT? That’s sounds interesting.

My daughter is like that too. How do they do it?!

ChatGPT - I’m new to the party with that one. It’s been around since about 2015 I think. People are suspicious about it because they think AI will end humanity- a cheerful thought eh?

But I find it great for things like this. I like the way it sifts out a precise, specific response to your questions. And sets them out in an easy to read format. It’s also very conversational so you don’t actually feel you’re talking to a robot.

You’re welcome Sillyoldbird 🤣 I wish I was more like my sister in law. Her mantra is ‘only worry when you’ve got something definite to worry about’ She never seems to stress. But hey ho, it’s just how we are made. ChatGPT? That’s sounds interesting.

My mind races when I’m trying to get to sleep. It began at the start of the pandemic and I started having the radio on all night. I now either listen to Jason Stephensons Get Back to Sleep Fast on utube ( this also includes breathing exercises) or Bob Ross black ( just the sound, no pictures) on utube which is the whole of one series. When BBC, as a stroke of genius, started showing Bobs tv series at the start of the pandemic, I found that I could never get to the end of each half hour programme as I’d fall asleep. I like to think that they soothe my mind while I’m asleep, too. I think I must be a bit ocd’ish so I try to manage it as best I can.

LadyGaGa

Oh I do understand Sillyoldbird.
I do the same. My daughter is undergoing tests at the moment and my husband recently. I’ve taken all the advice and bought all the self help books but it seems to make no difference. 3.00 in the morning is a bad time isn’t it? I obsess about every word spoken and go over everything from my google searches (I try not to) down to the tone of voice. Apart from some small symptoms my daughter is well, and the docs are pretty sure they know what it is but just want to eliminate anything more serious. No matter how much I try to rationalise it doesn’t really help.
This is just an example, as in life things do happen all the time don’t they, and I think I have just got to accept that this is how I am and maybe embrace it.
I do agree that distraction helps, and I hope you enjoy your run out in the sunshine.
It’s exhausting though isn’t it, and although I do talk about it to my husband at times, I tend to keep things to myself. I do think it helps to share in here too!

LadyGaGa I think we must be made from the same cloth - at least as far as this is concerned. I’ve done everything you’ve mentioned and more. My friends and family must be absolutely sick of hearing me going on and on about things in a vain attempt to get some comfort.
I’ve stopped googling though at least and have taken to ChatGPT. I know there are many that don’t trust AI but I’ve found it invaluable. It’s actually helped me to rationalise a bit better and got me through this morning at least.
Thanks for making me feel less like a freak

Oh I do understand Sillyoldbird.
I do the same. My daughter is undergoing tests at the moment and my husband recently. I’ve taken all the advice and bought all the self help books but it seems to make no difference. 3.00 in the morning is a bad time isn’t it? I obsess about every word spoken and go over everything from my google searches (I try not to) down to the tone of voice. Apart from some small symptoms my daughter is well, and the docs are pretty sure they know what it is but just want to eliminate anything more serious. No matter how much I try to rationalise it doesn’t really help.
This is just an example, as in life things do happen all the time don’t they, and I think I have just got to accept that this is how I am and maybe embrace it.
I do agree that distraction helps, and I hope you enjoy your run out in the sunshine.
It’s exhausting though isn’t it, and although I do talk about it to my husband at times, I tend to keep things to myself. I do think it helps to share in here too!

Great idea - enjoy the sunshine!

Luckygirl3

What you are experiencing is what people with obsessive-compulsive disorder get - although theirs is a constant irrational problem, rather than an understandable response to a one-off stressful situation. However, some of the strategies that they are advised to try still apply. Try these:

Strategies for stopping obsessive thoughts include mindfulness, distraction, and challenging your thoughts.
Mindfulness
Meditation: Focus on your breathing or sensations to help you be present and reduce anxiety
Acceptance mindfulness: Notice your thoughts and emotions without judgment
Distraction
Change your environment
Try a new activity, like reading, listening to music, or going for a walk
Avoid activities that trigger your obsessive thoughts
Challenge your thoughts
Question your thoughts,
Consider if your thoughts are accurate,
Put your thoughts into perspective
Accept that you can't be certain about everything.
Other strategies
Allow time for worrying each day
Exercise regularly
De-stress before bed
Keep a gratitude journal
Seek support from friends and family
Consider talking to a professional
Try progressive muscle relaxation

Thank you Luckygirl. I agree this is like OCD. I can get quite obsessive when I’m anxious about other things too.

It’s a lovely day today so I’m going to ask my husband to take us for a run out in the car later I can’t do too much physically yet because of recovering from the op.

What you are experiencing is what people with obsessive-compulsive disorder get - although theirs is a constant irrational problem, rather than an understandable response to a one-off stressful situation. However, some of the strategies that they are advised to try still apply. Try these:

Strategies for stopping obsessive thoughts include mindfulness, distraction, and challenging your thoughts.
Mindfulness
Meditation: Focus on your breathing or sensations to help you be present and reduce anxiety
Acceptance mindfulness: Notice your thoughts and emotions without judgment
Distraction
Change your environment
Try a new activity, like reading, listening to music, or going for a walk
Avoid activities that trigger your obsessive thoughts
Challenge your thoughts
Question your thoughts,
Consider if your thoughts are accurate,
Put your thoughts into perspective
Accept that you can't be certain about everything.
Other strategies
Allow time for worrying each day
Exercise regularly
De-stress before bed
Keep a gratitude journal
Seek support from friends and family
Consider talking to a professional
Try progressive muscle relaxation

Yes there are but it’s as if I just can’t drag myself away from it.

I know what I’m doing is harmful, but I don’t seem to be able to stop.

Please do not be angry with yourself .... you have so much to cope with just now. Are there people around you who could distract you from these circular thoughts?

Really struggling today. I was awake at 3.30 trying to rationalise everything, ie gallbladder cancer is very rare, damage from infections is very common.

But then my mind keeps going over all the things that the surgeon said and dissecting them, also questioning why I need two types of scan.

I’m so angry at myself for not being able to cope better. I’ve tried relaxation techniques and distraction, but it’s not working.
I’m driving myself mad