Cossy
LovesBach
My son, aged four, went to a playgroup for a year or so before starting school. From time to time they had a 'special visitor' who would spend half an hour showing the children how to brush their teeth, how to tie their shoelaces, how to wash their hands throughly and properly - not forgetting thumbs! - and similar useful life skills for small people. These interludes always included colourful items - huge 'clown' shoes to practice shoelace tying etc. and often a brightly coloured toothbrush to bring home. DS found this most interesting. Does this happen in nurseries/playgroups today?
Isn’t this a parents role?
I know there’s masses of families in poverty and chaos, but if these parents cannot even manage the absolute basics then frankly I despair!
What would be good would be to re- introduce the “troubled families” (awful name!) and have family support workers working with these families.
I worked, alongside Family Workers, when doing outreach for the DWP, I worked on budgeting and preparing for work and ensuring the right benefits were in payment and the family workers helped with childcare education, ensuring school was attended, worked alongside teachers and health visitors.
It’s not a quick fix and requires time and money.
Of course it is the parents' role - but not every parent behaves responsibly and prepares their child for school - or life. You are obviously well aware of this, and as you say, there are families in 'poverty and chaos' - which must impact so badly on a small child with no skills. The playgroup made this a lighthearted occasional session, no doubt feeling it would reinforce what was taught at home, and help to enlighten children whose parents felt it was everyone else's job. That is not the fault of the child, and although my children could perform all of these basic tasks at a young age, I didn't see any harm in some encouragement from another source.