@watermeadow this is why your aids are not working for you. You need to practise wearing them even when you are on your own - when watching the television or listening to the radio is a good way to start. The reason they are amplifying other sounds when when you are talking to others is that you have not heard these sounds for a very long time and, because your brain has adjusted to this, they are much more noticeable at the moment. As you get used to them, they fade into the background more. Amplifying background noises is a problem but the benefits of being able to hear your friends and family again far outweigh this. You then notice other, enjoyable sounds that you haven't heard for a long time. I was out walking the dog this morning and I could hear birds singing, which I can't without my aids. Similarly, I can now hear a clock ticking and l am like a five year old in the Autumn when the dry leaves are on the ground and I stamp on them because, until I had my hearing aids, I didn't know they made a noise. Perseverance is key.