Anxiety over gc going on days out

I agree. don't head straight for drugs - try and find out whats underlying this level of anxiety on a fairly specific issue with good counselling, and for something like this I agree CBT is spot on.

easybee, sound words. batshizzle, it is very positive that you recognise your anxiety . However .............you must try and get a grip on this ! It is not healthy for your GC to sense your anxiety and it is not healthy for you either.
Let this go please 🙏 for everyone's sake.
No one and that that includes children enjoy being constantly monitored. You are in danger of losing your GC if this continues. I love my children/ GC but respect their need for privacy , result- we have sound relationships.
It is not your responsibility to monitor / safeguard your GD. The only exception to that rule is when your GD is in your care. Live your life , enjoy your life and stop this pre occupation with 'protecting' your GD, it' s not your job. See your GP and discuss your irrational fear. I wish you well - good luck.

Excellent, helpful advice from MOnica.

I think most of us see the world as a more dangerous place to the one we grew up in. It's natural to be concerned about our GC's safety but you will have to keep those concerns to yourself, I'm afraid. Your DD clearly feels comfortable with her daughter going out with this family member and you will have to accept that. Look forward to hearing about the wonderful time she had. As MOnica says, getting help with your anxiety is the route to take. I would follow her advice and good luck.

The uestion you ask, is what can you do to stop this problem, or at least alleviate it.

The best I can suggest is a course of CBT(Cognitive Behaviour Therapy). This is defined as a practical, structured talking therapy that helps you manage mental health and behavioral challenges. It works by identifying the connection between your thoughts, feelings, and actions, and teaching you practical coping strategies to break negative cycles and improve your mood

You should be able to get a referral through your doctor, or, if you go online to your GP Practice website, Among all the nitty gritty about appointments and prescriptions, they also have pages of accessible information about mental and physical health and may have information about CBT courses there

you can probably tell I’m anxious by nature!) I was the same when my own kids were small but had control over their activities then.

Stop it now.
The key word is control.
You have to let your family live their own lives without interference, because this is what it is. My mother did similar, always insisting on knowing where and what I was doing and interrogating friends to find out if I didn't say. It continued after my marriage and children, became worse when I separated, and eventually I reunited with my husband in my forties and moved many miles away.
Sadly, it was a great relief to know my private life remained private.
I sometimes wonder if this is sometimes the cause of estrangement of adult children; too much involvement in their lives for the best possible reasons but a refusal to let go; the partner /spouse recognises it and rejects it.

If you’re worried now, well, it won’t improve as they get older, I’m afraid.

Parties, late nights out, going to the pub, walking home late at night, driving, being driven by friends…..

I have young grandchildren but there is little point getting anxious about everything they do. As time goes on there will be far more things they take part in one of mine is off on a residential school trip next week. Quite honestly they have their life to live with as many experiences as possible. Bad things can happen any time anywhere but 99% of the time they don't.
Are you usually so anxious about things in general or is it just this one thing.