I have decided to split up from my husband of 5 years, 9 years together. (We were both widowed when we met) I know, I know, I am nearly 70 years old and maybe too old for such a massive upheaval but I have realised that our relationship is over. We have had good times in the first years, but this last 2 have been very up and down with me seemingly doing the chasing when things are not so good, he is rather a reserved cold man which I didn't really notice at first and I tend to do all the emotional and physical care. We squabble too much for my liking and he is sadly getting on my nerves which is not good. I have regular disagreements about my seeing my grandchildren who live a long way off and requires me to travel. He now seems to hate my daughter and will not come with me or stay over and even in the beginning he would not stay longer than 3 nights. She has always been polite and gone to a lot of trouble to make sure the food is to his liking (he is a funny eater) The stuff between them is rather petty and I cannot help but think he is jealous but he has his own family of similar age. His grandsons are much older, but saying that for the first year we had two of the younger ones from school and through holidays for a year after we got together.
I am missing my little family more and more and this new years they came to stay and my daughter and my husband did not see eye to eye about something and he refused to speak to her at all for the whole of new year hol.
He sulked and was unapproachable to my little granddaughters who call him grandpa which was awful. One asked me why Grandpa didn't want to come out with us and why was he acting funny.
I asked him to come out with us for a meal on new years day and he refused saying he did not want to be with my daughter. When they had gone home he said next time they come he would go away.
I can understand him not liking my daughter I suppose he has the right but now he blames her for the break up of what he calls his marriage and his life being ruined.
I cannot live under the strain of this or with a man who can make himself unapproachable to two little girls 6 and 9. When they had gone home I told him it was over.
Maybe if we had 30-40 years of history together then maybe I could work through it but now I want what time I have left being with people who love me.
House is on the market and although he is baffled by it all we are on the move and now although feel really scared I am looking forward to being close to my family.
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