I nursed my husband until he died 9 months ago.
Before that he was disabled for 15 years. He used to call me his walking stick, when doctors said "I see you're not using a stick yet".
This time last year he was still walking. Then he needed two wheelchairs, one inside the house and one outside. I used to transfer mhim myself, no help, until it was impossible as he could not move his feet to help himself.
It was only in the last 3 weeks of his life in January that we had help, when it was taking me an hour to change his pads after he had messed himself yet again.
I am sorry, but I am not doing that for any strangers.
We had Hospice at Home to look after him 4 times a day. They were wonderful, and he always thanked them. That left me free to lie down next to him, hold his hands, talk to him, listen to music with him. I'm not going to volunteer to do that for anyone else either. Who do these patronising people think they are?
Both my patents died in 2006 as well as my aunt. I looked after them a lot, too, while having a full time job and a disabled husband.
The carers that looked after my husband were on minimum wage. That's only slightly better than volunteering.
Who does this * think runs all the charity work?
I hope Ageuk tells him what they think of him.