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Abandoned baby

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Deedaa Sat 13-Apr-13 21:20:28

The trouble is that although there is plenty of help available there are so many families now where children are regarded as a liability and encouraged to leave home as soon as possible and a girl from that sort of background would probably feel quite helpless with no one to turn to. If it was an abusive home the situation becomes even worse.
Quite a few of the babies abandoned recently have had Eastern European mothers haven't they. I know they can trace the origin through the DNA but, of course, there's no hope of finding the mother once she's gone home.

cathy Sat 13-Apr-13 20:56:05

Nellie it has nothing to do with day and age really, its more to do with being human, yes there are loads of info on contraception and there is no shame associated with illegitimate babies anymore, but the human race will always get themselves in these kinds of situations regardless it.

I worry for the poor girl, what must she be going through right now.

Nelliemoser Sat 13-Apr-13 17:35:44

I have been thinking about this since I read it. This is really bad in this day and age.

I could understand it far more over 30/40ys ago when illegitimacy was a dreadful shame. It seems that these days very few people turn a hair about the morality of illegitimacy as they used to.

Information about Sex and pregnancy and contraceptive advice are so readily available. Having a undisclosed pregnancy and having to abandon a baby nowadays makes me think the mum must have been living in a very strict family, culture or religion which meant that they didn't have access to this information or they have been so terrified and isolated they could not deal with the situation at all.

Poor soul. sad

Mishap Sat 13-Apr-13 16:02:41

I saw so many young women (children really) who were pregnant and in a pickle. One poor lass went home from school as she had bellyache and gave birth to her babe alone in her bedroom - she was so frightened that she wrapped it in a plastic bag and stuffed it under the bed where it died of course. That was just one of many.

This poor mother must be frantic - how very sad for baby and mother alike. It should not happen these days.

Movedalot Sat 13-Apr-13 15:44:33

Hopefully she will be found and helped. I have heard that some women don't realise they are pregnant so if that were the case the poor woman/girl might be very confused. sad At least the baby will be well looked after and I think it is quite easy to find adoptive parents for babies.

Nelliemoser Sat 13-Apr-13 15:13:17

Very sad. The poor woman must be in a dreadful position to have to do that.

Eloethan Sat 13-Apr-13 14:54:33

It's very sad - for the mother and for the child.

When a child is abandoned and never finds out who his/her mother is, it must be terrible. Adopted children can at least find something out about their backgrounds and possibly make contact later in life.

sunseeker Sat 13-Apr-13 14:53:59

I sure the mother was desperate but I think she could have chosen somewhere better to leave the baby. I don't condemn the poor woman at all, perhaps she just was unable to think straight. Hope the baby is OK

gracesmum Sat 13-Apr-13 14:48:13


gracesmum Sat 13-Apr-13 14:47:45

I was shocked when I turned on the computer a few minutes ago to read the following on Yahoo news:
"A baby girl - believed to be days old - found abandoned on a park bench has been named after the police officer who took her to hospital.
Newborn Charlotte is said to be doing well after a passer-by spotted her in Hailesland Park in Edinburgh at about 12.55pm on Thursday."
and I wondered what had happened to the poor woman /girl who gave birth and then felt obliged to leave her baby. Not least because it has been SO cold, but she must have been desparate. sad