I live in Scotland and will definitely be voting "no" on Thursday. I was born in England, lived in Wales and am married to a Welshman. My two children were born in Scotland. All four of us consider ourselves British. My husband and I have lived in Scotland for over 40 years, far longer than in any other part of the UK. I dislike nationalism because it can be so divisive. My husband and I saw what happened when the Welsh nationalists became so active in Wales.
When I first arrived in Scotland in 1973 I was immediately aware of the antipathy towards the English. Not to me personally but to the English in general. It was so endemic in Scotland that I honestly don't think most Scots realised it was racist. When my daughter was about 10 she actually told her teacher that she thought a comment she had just made about the English was racist. The teacher replied that it didn't count as racist because the English said the same thing about the Scots. My children spent every school holiday with either their Welsh or English grandparents and played with local children. They never came across critical remarks about the Scots.
Sadly I suspect this would no longer be the case today. The Scottish Nationalists in general, and Alex Salmond in particular, have stirred up this antipathy to the extent that there is now real hatred on both sides. It is very frightening. When you walk round the streets of Edinburgh, where I live, you will see virtually no "no" stickers on windows, and yet the polls show that Better Together is in the lead. People who are voting no are too scared to speak out or make their views known, unless they know they are with fellow no supporters. They are frightened to put stickers in their windows in case they get a brick put through. Yes, really. Several friends have had to pretend to be yes supporters in social situations to avoid getting into heated arguments. Perhaps you think they are cowards. But we will all have to live with each other after the vote. And next door to our English neighbours. Whatever way the vote goes on Thursday, and I fervently hope it is a no, it is going to take many years to repair the damage this campaign has done.