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They still don't get it

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MiceElf Tue 02-Dec-14 18:33:35

Claridges that is. A breastfeeding mother was instructed to cover up by a waiter who appeared with a large table napkin to hide the baby and mother.

Apart from the fact that this violates the terms of the Equalities Act, it's amazing that these attitudes still persist in some ghastly institutions.

granjura Tue 09-Dec-14 18:01:24

Ana, so why not 'aim' a reply or post clearly at someone, as asked before- rather than being vague, then saying 'but it was not aimed at youuuu, ahah'. As said, not fair and generally quite rude. Thanks.
As said, for me personally, water over a duck's back.

granjura Tue 09-Dec-14 17:43:24

Masticating in public, well I never ... and old people at that!

granjura Tue 09-Dec-14 17:42:26

Jingle- I do not take offence personally- but I do find it rude, in general, when some posters intentionally give obtuse or obscure, cryptic replies which clearly are meant to upset or mock- and clearly meant to not make it clear whom- and then turn round and say 'but it was not aimed at youhuuu, so there'- childish, and rude- in general. Personally, I don't give a monkey's.

GrannyTwice Tue 09-Dec-14 17:37:02

I'm not too keen on young people on the train eating spivey food with their mouths open or the revolting small of popcorn at the cinema. Why on earth did you use that example Petallus?

annodomini Tue 09-Dec-14 17:14:56

What a very ageist post, petallus. Would you prefer these elderly people to swallow their food whole and therefore choke? I'm surprised that Waitrose allegedly sells 'smelly' food.

thatbags Tue 09-Dec-14 17:02:17

Just as well babes at the breast don't have to chew their food in that case.

Odourless food would be unpleasant, I think. Smell is a large part of taste.

thatbags Tue 09-Dec-14 17:01:06

Oh dear! Is it non-U to chew one's food now?

petallus Tue 09-Dec-14 11:33:17

I've just watched Phantom via jingle's link.

Well!

The lavatory scene was hugely unconvincing. Who wriggles their knickers down under their skirt? Where were all the lavvie noises (plops, tinkles etc.)? Nobody seemed to wipe their bums or wash their hands. And what if you didn't want to go? Would you have to pretend to be polite?

If a profound point was being made (rather than an obvious one) I hope someone will explain it to me. I do realise that I watched one scene out of context of course.

Having said that, it has occurred to me that watching others eat can be offputting. For instance, I sometimes go into the Waitrose cafe in the lunchtime when it is packed with the elderly all shoving loads of smelly lunch down their throats. Sometimes you can see them masticating.

I'd prefer a room full of breastfeeders any day!

rosequartz Tue 09-Dec-14 10:35:12

Not sure what your reference to rudeness referred to Rude humour!

I don't know, a vague recollection of toilets and dining tables (not that I have been to that particular restaurant!)

A vision of a room of breastfeeding mothers with toilets and potties, and everyone hastily rushing off to another room to eat.

Ana Mon 08-Dec-14 22:23:15

Yes - several people on a thread can sometimes think a post is aimed at them while the person it was really addressed to remains oblivious! grin

jinglbellsfrocks Mon 08-Dec-14 22:14:30

It's funny on GN, how posters take offence at a reply not actually meant for them. grin

jinglbellsfrocks Mon 08-Dec-14 22:13:38

this is the Pantom of Liberty thing Weird!

How on earth did you know about that rosequarz?

thatbags Mon 08-Dec-14 22:07:50

Some reasons why breast feeding is not like peeing from mumsnet. They don't pull their punches over there ;)

grumppa Mon 08-Dec-14 22:05:17

rosequartz, I was replying to petallus, not you. Not sure what your reference to rudeness referred to.

MiceElf Mon 08-Dec-14 18:33:56

Good point Grumpa. And as it happens, babies feed on milk not farts.

rosequartz Mon 08-Dec-14 18:05:34

Although most babies seem to think so.
In one end, out the other.

absent Mon 08-Dec-14 17:59:53

Farting and feeding a baby are not comparable natural activities.

petallus Mon 08-Dec-14 11:56:45

Thanks! Sounds interesting.

Looked on Amazon. Is it Phantom of Liberty, Contemporary Art and the Pedagogical Paradox, Lars Bang Larson?

I suspect not but it's all they've got.

rosequartz Mon 08-Dec-14 11:48:40

As I am not a complete ignoramus I did know that grumppa.
I did get the inference. Turning social norms on their head (or backsides).

As I said, farting is perfectly natural too.

Rudeness on GN seems to be becoming the norm, too.

grumppa Mon 08-Dec-14 11:31:19

A surreal satire on what are and are not social norms; probably the best-known scene is the one where the guests sit in a circle on lavatories and chat, and retire to separate private cubicles to eat.

petallus Mon 08-Dec-14 08:06:44

grumpa please enlighten this ignoramus.

rosequartz Sun 07-Dec-14 23:10:56

grin

Well, I was going to mention that farting is perfectly natural too, grumppa but I would attempt to refrain from it when in a public restaurant.

grumppa Sun 07-Dec-14 23:06:09

Why does this discussion remind me of Bunuel's 'The Phantom of Liberty'?

rosequartz Sun 07-Dec-14 23:04:30

I am not talking about rights GT, just thoughtfulness for others.

That is a problem these days (not the breastfeeding itself), it's that everyone always shouts about their rights and don't often consider other people's feelings.
It is a perfectly natural process imo, but I was just saying that some people may find it uncomfortable to be eating their scones with clotted cream whilst someone on the next table is breastfeeding.
It doesn't bother me but it may bother some. It does not make them perverted or twisted to have a different opinion.

But then, perhaps I have been brought up to consider other people's feelings and many people have not.

Tegan Sun 07-Dec-14 22:30:56

I think the Little Britain sketches about breastfeeding probably played quite a part in turning a lot of young women off breastfeeding. Some of their stuff was funny but a lot of it was stomach churning sad.