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Poppy seller commits suicide

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Soutra Fri 15-May-15 14:32:44

While it makes for a good story, and of course cannot be discounted, I think we should guard against assuming the lady jumped, Until we know otherwise, all that can be said certainty is that she "fell".
Bearing in mind a former much loved member of GN's death in a mountainous area of France just 18 months ago, coming to hasty conclusions makes this sad event even more distressing for her family.

POGS Fri 15-May-15 14:17:35

I thought about raising this ladies demise on the 'Charities canvassing for money thread' we had recently but thought better of it. It does feed into it though.

Of course it cannot be factually determined that this was the cause or part of a wider issue of the cause of her death until presumably an inquest has taken place but the sad thing is it is not likely to change unless charities are banned from cold calling/asking for funding. Not likely to happen is it!

She certainly sounds like a very kind woman, a tragic story.

TriciaF Fri 15-May-15 14:12:48

I started off here (France) donating to a cancer charity, and later started to receive requests from 4 others, the last being Red Cross.
No more since then! they must pass on the names of donors.
I just send a small cash donation by post when I can afford it, 5€ or so.
But what irritates me is that Red Cross especially keep sending me quite posh gifts such as wallets of fancy writing paper and envelopes, where the money could be better spend on needy people. One day I'll get round to writing them to ask them to stop sending such things.

jollyg Fri 15-May-15 14:02:01

This is a tragic story.

I am often tempted to give to the BBC appeal on Sunday mornings, however you are divulging your details and can be easily targeted.

I used to collect in the street for a sea mans charity.

It was an eyeopener as to the generosity of the residents who I knew well.

The chief execs of some of the bigger charities seem to be extremely well paid

whitewave Fri 15-May-15 13:54:05

What a lovely lady she was - but in all honesty I think it is a potential problem with her age and her generation.

Speaking from experience. Mum has expressed almost the identical words she said about giving to those in need, and yesterday she asked my DH about what I think was a Red Cross letter in which I think was a cotton bag (I didn't see it) and what to do about it as she had given quite a lot this month. DH of course assured her and threw the letter away. I think as you get older and frailer that although she is still very bright she is too frail to take any sort of pressure from any source and needs to be protected from such stuff.

Grannyknot Fri 15-May-15 13:46:51

There are several reports in the papers today about a woman aged 92 who has committed suicide by jumping into a gorge, and the reports suggest that she felt "hounded" by charities and could not keep up the various charitable donations that she had agreed to. I felt so sorry to read about it.

My husband supported the Alzheimer's Society during the year that he was captain of his golf club, as his chosen charity. They did not stop hounding him after his term of office was over, even though he explained that he could no longer keep up the level of donations of that year. When I say hounded him, there were several days when there would be a call a day. Eventually last week when I recognised the voice of the caller yet again, I said "Why would you upset someone who has supported you generously in the past, with this unwelcome and aggressive marketing strategy?" I demanded and he agreed to take our name off the list. Since then no phone calls.

I'm not sure who governs or decides how money is raised, but something isn't right about the system of getting donations.