Is it offensive to tell a woman that she looks nice?

Much like Skype in that, then. I get a lot of contact requests from US colonels. There doesn't seem to be anything lower than that in the US army.

Could be my own fault for having the year of my birth in my username. They take it as being my age, which in reality is more than twice my birth year. No photograph, though - perhaps I should include one, that would keep them away.

Never, ever respond to anyone who asks you to join LinkedIn, unless, of course, you are still in the market place for jobs.

Once you respond to someone your inbox is filled daily with requests to communicate with people you have never heard of and have no wish to connect with!!
It is then quite difficult to delete.
LinkedIn requests seem to go out to everyone on someone's contact list!

Right. Not a site I have had occasion to use. A kind of self-advertising CV-showing agency. So she displayed what she thought was a CV, and he replied with what she thought was a come-on.

I still think that the photograph was a touch "glamorous" for a CV. That doesn't mean that it is fodder for admiring replies on its attractiveness, without reference to her professional life.

Elegran LinkedIn is just a site where you post your professional qualifications and interests.
You can then ask people to 'connect' with you. This is what Charlotte did with respect to Alex. The people you have connected with then hopefully 'endorse' you for a particular skill, such as public speaking, management, healthcare or whatever your field is.
Then if you're being head hunted the head hunters can look at your LinkedIn profile and see what your qualifications and experience are and how many people, and perhaps more importantly who, has endorsed you.

Sorry, I thought she was applying for a job with the offending bloke. To be frank, I've not been reading all the details.

I agree with the above posters that I would not employ either of them. Not much hope for peace in the workplace.

What job?

Did she get the job, by the way? Not that such a detail wouild have any bearing on the case, of course.

I wouldn't call a public naming and shaming "getting away with it".

It's interesting that she can distinguish subtle differences in meaning when she wants to, wanting him to say sorry for what he said rather than because she felt offended.

I wouldn't employ either of them either. With you there, nfk.

If he apologised for saying she looked good, would she then have said he was implying she was ugly? I think she was out to pick a fight.

I wouldn't employ either of them.

As Ms Proudman said, he didn't apologise for what he said, only for her feeling upset.
I'd expect him to carry on making inappropriate remarks and getting away with it.

Eh? What do you expect him to do then, Elred?

It can be so easy to just apologise. To me 'sorry' implies 'I do not intend to do that again.' Much harder to keep to the implicit intention in the future ...

A bit late in the day, but may I say Soop: 'You definitely win the prize for the best LinkedIn collie dog picture I have ever seen'.

Refusing to accept his apology with grace is a very silly move imo; she needs to move on and so does he.
This won't do her future career much good if she cannot be magnanimous.

No thatbags. It says that she is a person that sometimes at least doesnt accept apologies.

Oh dear! This is me getting used to the mobile site and making a pig's ear. Please ignore .

He has offered an apology for saying what she found offensive. Apparently she's refusing to accept the apology. That suggests she thinks his transgression was diabolical at least.

That's a wonderful portrait of what looks like a lovely dog!

Am I allowed to say that it is 'stunning'?

I did have a photo taken with DD when we were on holiday recently; we fell about laughing when we saw it - it has obviously been photo-shopped, soft lensed and whatever else they do. I look about 40 with smooth skin! Of course, I had to buy it, but it is now buried in a pile of holiday brochures etc!

Perhaps I should re-join Linked-in and use it as my profile picture

It's very lifelike Soop, well done.

Soop...... What a stunning picture!

bags (hug)

Hear hear!

Your interruptions are always welcome, soop. I love the painting!

It seems I was misinformed previously and that Proudman is in fact one of Charlotte's family names from a couple of generations ago on the maternal side. Apparently she changed her surname after her father left his estate to charity.

Hi, jings It's good to see that you are as feisty as ever. I rather like the kitchen. I can slob relax and keep myself entertained without too much argy-bargy to fret about.

I am giving you a preview of my watercolour of a much-loved, now deceased family pet that has kept me super busy and out of trouble.

Sorry to intrude and all that...