Would you renew your wedding vows like Dolly Parton?

Of course everyone should do what they want it just wouldn't be on for some of us. I would feel very torn if my partner really wanted it and I didn't.I would think they may be very upset and think I didn't feel the same way about the relationship as they did and I might have given in.

That it's special for those who choose to renew their vows or have a blessing is all that matters , I think at a time when divorce parties are increasing even more reason to celebrate a long marriage

I have been married 51 years. No need to renew my wedding vows as I haven't broken them yet !

My husband's been nagging me for years to renew our vows and in a moment of weakness on our 30th anniversary, I agreed I would on our 40th. Seemed a long way away at the time, now it's on 3!
We married after 3 months and were told by many, including my mum, that it wouldn't last. It's mere assuring to know so many of you don't like the idea and think it's awkward. I think I need to come up with a good alternative!

We renewed ours at the church we got married at after 25 years with just a few close friends, just as a celebration of happy years together, no special frock etc. There is no pressure to do it so if it's not for you don't and if you don't want to go to someone else's don't - simple. It's not something I'd do often, that has been the only time in 38 years, but it was special for us. I'm surprised at what strong feelings this subject has raised, maybe we are not as tolerant as we'd like to think!

My DH had a heart attack and emergency bypass surgery recently and during his early days of recovery he went on and on about this.... I kept VERY noncommittal as we've only been married 4 years!!! Happily since the morphine has well and truly worn off the subject seems to have been forgotten, phew

*Harris27 *mine eyes smelt onions at your post. Lovely reason. It made me think what would be good for our 50 years in 2019 ( if we're spared) We went on our honeymoon camping with an old MG. we were very poor in our eyes but had one wonderful meal at a beautiful chateau in the Loire valley. I've just thought that I would like to renew our honeymoon rather than our vows in that chateau if it's still around.

My mum and dad had a blessing on there 60th at the church where they were married. I will be celebrating my golden anniversary but it will probably be a villa in the med somewhere. Just immediate family

I can understand if a couple makes 25+ years b ut on Say yes to the dress ( Ok my bad TV habit) they've has people renewing after 1 -5) often just because they didn't like the dress they wore

Read this with interest we renewed our vows at 30 years and myself and my husband had never had a party for anything before but I had just gotten over a particularly bad time with a illness and felt lucky to be alive! We started talking about doing this and my husband said why not? So we gathered our dearest friends booked the church and reception afterwards the girls at work and dear true friends still say it was an amazing day and it was for me and my husband we celebrate our ruby wedding next year and don't plan to do anything but go on holiday together as nothing could surpas our lovely 30th.

I think Wedding Anniversaries should be celebrated, but renewing vows? Why? Seems redundant...I think it is just an excuse to do all the wedding thing again...I see younger people also speak about renewing vows, after five or ten years...weird in my book

That's great jane. I'm a huge Dolly fan and believe she also has one of her literary schemes running in the UK - somewhere in the north, I think.

Our wedding anniversary is often the 'excuse' for a big family bash.

It seems from the link in the OP that Dolly had a very small wedding back in 1966, with only her mother as witness, so I can understand her wanting to do it again, 50 years on, and make a bigger thing of it.
We had a very small register office wedding and although I wouldn't want to go through that bit again, it has been the excuse for some memorable parties at regular intervals ever since
I've told MrA that I want to celebrate our Golden Wedding in 4 years' time with a return visit to Fat Harold's in North Myrtle Beach, NC www.fatharolds.com

Dolly is going to donate all the profits from the sale of the photographs from her second wedding to her charity which promotes literacy among disadvantaged children in America, so good on her.

We didn`t really make any vows 53 years ago, it was a registry office wedding, quick in and out, shake of the hand and "that`ll be seven and sixpence please"!

Yes it's certainly something to celebrate but I don't understand this renewal business. Why? Have they lapsed or something then?
I've sometimes told DH he's jolly lucky we don't have to renew our marriage every year cos some years I would have had to think hard about it! But here we are 47 years later and still plodding on

We will have been married 58 years in August. We did have a small dinner party at a restaurant and a garden lunch the next day for our Golden but last year H didn't even know so no diamond celebrations for us. Those of you who can celebrate,do so,it is an achievement. I do think it might be an opportunity to renounce vows though, that might prove very popular?.

Nothing is too much for MrsP

GandTea That's the spirit!

After 50 years I can't remember what I promised, so a reminder would be good. Party, definitely, booking a table for two at MacDonalds.

I made that last post very flippantly and I realise that some GNs won't be able to have a party so I'm sorry if I hurt anyone. Or even offended anyone!

If a couple have made it to 50years, a renewal seems superfluous. The party is non-negotiable though!

I echo Kitty's thoughts. It's a bit like the school prom, baby shower yet another unnecessary and possibly expensive piece of nonsense that's floated over from the other side of the pond. That's not to say I don't think anniversaries should be celebrated. Particularly a milestone such as a Golden Wedding.

Good grief jinglbellsfrocks. Can't believe you fell for the old 'obey' trap! Didn't do that, but got bullied into agreeing to quotations from St Paul - by the vicar not DH.

I certainly wouldn't agree to vow renewal, and poor DH was embarrassed enough the first time round. He'd never survive a second go.

That's awful, annsixty. Like a group hug that somebody calls for and nobody else wants

My DD tells me it's our Golden Wedding this year.Who knew?! I sure as hell didn't.

I hope to get a large delicious cake out of it.