Although I have to say Iam64, your comment "I hate the outdated male dominated feel of clubs" that resonated with me. My late father in law and his golfing pals were exactly like that. Women were treated as if they were some strange unfathomable species. They had hideous annual "ladies' night" events which I was dragged to once or twice where my father in law would arrange a table for the family and we'd have to listen to nauseating speeches from his fellow members who would utter crap like "we'd like to thank the ladies for letting us out" like they were dogs
. However, these functions gradually died out, through lack of support from "the ladies" I gather
. My poor late mother in law, truly was a golfing widow the old man wouldn't go anywhere with her, she holidayed with her friends and he went away on golf jaunts When he retired he played golf all the time and then came home and talked about golf, he thought these once a year "ladies nights" somehow mitigated the fact that he never did anything with my poor ex mother in law.
Rant over, happy to say that my husband does not play golf to the exclusion everything else.