Durhamjen, your mother in law must be a very wealthy woman to pay £1000 per week for care. We went without for many years to buy our house, never having holidays and counting the pennies. If I developed dementia I could live for years with It, if the house was sold to pay for care it would be gone in a couple of years.
The only good thing us test the two children I have, learnt early on that you have to work hard to get on, they both have a strong work ethic and are good parents to their children, so will manage. I would rather not have to pay for this care so that my property could pass to my children. I would say all the sacrifices we made, we might as well not have bothered, except for the fact I believe in paying my own way and not having others pay for me. What I do object to are those that can work, not working, I know of one couple, one an ex teacher, who somehow are both on benefits, who constantly go on holidays and not cheap ones. If everyone didn't bother to save, have their own homes the system would collapse because no one would be paying in. For genuine cases no problem, if I have to pay for it when I become unable to manage, it will be a bitter pill to swallow, But the system is collapsing, those £1000 fees your mother in law us paying, if she didn't have so much money, the tax payer would be.