It's all very well to say that people should look after the elderly ... but as others have said above, there are many times when circumstances just do not allow that. Both my parents had dementia and needed 24 hour nursing care, which we were not able to provide as we are not nurses. We did not 'put' either of them into Nursing Homes. There was no choice for their own safety and well-being. While they were there, I saw no residents who could safely have been cared for by relatives. I did, however, see many relatives visiting their loved ones and caring as much as they could, while medically trained staff provided what they are trained to do - health care.