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The President's Club Annual Gala - "Men Behaving Badly"

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TerriBull Thu 25-Jan-18 09:55:46

I expect this is going to divide opinion, but what's your take on the Men Only charity event that's all over the news. However, for those not familiar, a bevy of young women, many of them students, were recruited through an agency for this event, they had to be slim and good looking they were told to wear sexy shoes and black underwear to go under the very skimpy dresses provided.They also had to sign a five page disclaimer, which they didn't get to read and weren't given a copy of. A couple of female undercover FT journalists were also amoung these young women and testified to appalling behaviour by SOME of the male guests. To give a flavour of the offers guests were asked to bid for "Plastic surgery to spice up the Mrs" hmm Jess Phillips gave a very good speech in Parliament imo saying these young women who were expected to act as hostesses "were merely bait" Personally I find it sickening that the guise of charity is used as a way to negate the bad behaviour in this sort of evening. I believe some of the high profile charities such as GOSH have told the now defunct Presidents' Club, where to stick their money.

MissAdventure Fri 02-Feb-18 16:40:18

The mens behaviour was appalling! Some of them, it seems, at least, whilst others claim to have seen nothing, which may well be true.

Baggs Fri 02-Feb-18 16:39:19

While blethering about what suffragettes might think of the WOMEN'S choices ?

Bridgeit Fri 02-Feb-18 16:37:10

That’s what I have been trying to do since the start of this thread!!!!!?????????

Baggs Fri 02-Feb-18 16:34:29

So get onto the men's behaviour then and not the women's!!!!!!!!!

Bridgeit Fri 02-Feb-18 16:32:01

I think we have already established that anyone has the right to do what ever job they choose, but

FOR THE LAST TIME IT IS ABOUT MEN STILL BEHAVING AS IF THEY HAVE THE RIGHT TO DO WHAT THEY PLEASE BY VIRTUE OF WEALTH AND POWER !

Baggs Fri 02-Feb-18 16:30:59

All my daughters have made choices I wouldn't make. Why shouldn't they? Their lives are their lives.

nigglynellie Fri 02-Feb-18 16:30:37

I don't think anyone would 'want' a granddaughter to do this type of work, anymore than you'd 'want' a grandson to be a male stripper, but if they choose to then, like Baggs, it would be none of my business.

MissAdventure Fri 02-Feb-18 16:30:22

Lots of human behaviour saddens others. Its life.

Anniebach Fri 02-Feb-18 16:28:11

And if I didn't want anyone belonging to me to do this work I have no right to say no one should do this work,

Bridgeit Fri 02-Feb-18 16:27:56

Whilst I agree that suffergettes would be very pleased that we are able make our own choices ,I think they would be very saddened that we would choose to use our choices & independence to pander to the same old pathetic,seedy behaviour that some men still choose to display. ( and especially they can still get away with it)

MissAdventure Fri 02-Feb-18 16:27:12

It wouldn't bother me at all. I would rather she was a doctor, but then its her life not mine.
I have a friend who did glamour type work for a while.
It enabled her to go on and train as a social worker a lot quicker than her cleaning jobs ever did. She was lucky to be blessed with looks and brains, and the sense to use both.

Anniebach Fri 02-Feb-18 16:26:10

Who these days has no choice about taking a job?

big difference in saying it is the right choice of job to they are free to choose to do this job.

Baggs Fri 02-Feb-18 16:25:34

I have three daughters. I honestly don't know how I'd feel about it. The two who are already adults (over 18) wouldn't even have to tell me about it. It's none of my business.

And it's none of my business if the other few billion adult women in the world choose to do this kind of work.

varian Fri 02-Feb-18 16:19:09

I know quite a lot of GNetters will defend "a woman's right to chose" whether or not to take this kind of job, but ask yourself, would you honestly want your own daughter or grand-daughter doing it (even if she actually wanted to , let alone if she felt she had no choice).

Anniebach Fri 02-Feb-18 16:14:25

Well said niggly

nigglynellie Fri 02-Feb-18 16:09:05

annie, I completely agree with everything you and Baggs have posted. It is about obtaining informed information in order to make an informed choice before accepting this or any job. If you ask not only the employer but other sources too and are uncomfortable with the general set up then you have the choice to refuse and should do so, if you feel comfortable, then you are at liberty to accept. I would apply the same criteria to my own granddaughter. I would advise her to think very carefully, and to ask around about what she was planning, (and privately think she was being a rather foolish young woman!) but if she were adamant, so be it, she has freedom of choice exactly like the next person, and I would accept that she is her own person, is over 18 and that because we're related her choices are not necessarily mine. Surely what the suffergettes fought for was for women to have exactly the same rights and freedoms as men which includes what sort of work they choose having had it made crystal clear, as with men, what that work entails and the pros and cons.

MaizieD Fri 02-Feb-18 16:05:47

The article, Jalima was written by a reporter for a reputable newspaper, not, as you imply, by a disaffected 'hostess'. It is very common for reporters to go 'undercover' in order to expose bad situations.

So why were the suited staff from the agency involved going round urging the girls to 'flirt' with the diners?

Because the brochure was, presumably, for whitewash purposes only...

Jalima1108 Fri 02-Feb-18 15:44:00

Maizie the article was written by a hostess at the main event - knowing that it was rather sleazy and the men were behaving badly why then did some of the young women choose to go to the after-party? Without coercion?

The accompanying brochure included a full-page warning that no attendees or staff should be sexually harassed.
So why were the suited staff from the agency involved going round urging the girls to 'flirt' with the diners?

And why on earth, if they felt uncomfortable at the main event, would they choose to go on to the party afterwards?

MaizieD Fri 02-Feb-18 15:37:35

knew

MaizieD Fri 02-Feb-18 15:37:19

All these protestations of 'it was the girl's choice' and, 'they knoew what they were letting themselves in for' don't ring true

From the original article:

The backgrounds of the dozen or more hostesses met by reporters were varied: many were students, hoping to launch careers as lawyers or marketing executives; others juggled part-time jobs as actresses, dancers or models and did occasional hostessing work to make ends meet.

one 19-year-old hostess, recounted a conversation with a guest nearing his seventies: who had asked her, directly, whether she was a prostitute. She was not. “I’ve never done this before, and I’m never doing it again,” she said later. “It’s f***ing scary.”

Another woman, 28, with experience of hostess work, observing the braying men around her said this was significantly different to previous black tie jobs. At other events, men occasionally would try to flirt with her, she said, but she had never felt uncomfortable or, indeed, frightened.

So not all the girls knew what to expect and I suspect that a number were doing it because they needed the money and had little choice, jobs not really being two a penny these days.

And:

The accompanying brochure included a full-page warning that no attendees or staff should be sexually harassed.

Now why would the organisers do that if they didn't know what was likely to happen?

MissAdventure Fri 02-Feb-18 15:18:28

Coerced so badly that some went back for several years to be hostesses at this event.

Jalima1108 Fri 02-Feb-18 15:17:40

The guests themselves differed from sweet and normal to propositioning their hostesses for sex
Some of the girls went into the event not knowing anything, and others went in with the expectation that they could take advantage and make more money, because they knew that's what the men were looking for.

Certain girls were invited to an 'after-party'
Six student hostesses tell us how they were pressured for sex at a private party after the charity dinner
Some girls who were chosen refused the invite

Jalima1108 Fri 02-Feb-18 15:09:44

I just don't get why some people don't seem to understand about freedom of choice.

Absolutely - isn't that what women have fought for - freedom of choice?

durhamjen Fri 02-Feb-18 15:04:59

If you read the article, they were coerced.

Jalima1108 Fri 02-Feb-18 14:59:35

and I agree with your post too icanhandthemback.