I regularly threaten to disinherit my children, if my Christmas or Birthday present isn't up to scratch, if they do not close the cloakroom door, if DS leaves his socks in the middle of the hall one more time. I threaten to disinherit them for any reason I can think of and do it at least once a day when they are home. The intention is to keep them on their toes
They take absolutely no notice of me, except DD who says when the need arises she will put me in the cheapest care home she can find as far away as possible and only visit once a year, if that.
So its stale mate and DDis not researching care homes.