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icanhandthemback Most students are 18 or over and legally are not the parents' responsibility and the universities will not communicate with parents.
If the child refuses to answer phone calls, texts, emails, etc and is 200 miles away, the parent is limited in what he/she can do. Contacting the university does no good either because they won't investigate, claiming that the student is an adult. Even travelling to the site does no good, if the university will not allow access to the building.
I'm afraid your post, thinking you know everything, has made me angry. You really don't seem to have much understanding of the experience of all too many students.
If the adult child is refusing to communicate with their parents, then that is their right and doesn't automatically mean they are struggling although I do understand it must be very worrying for the parent. Once again, I can only speak from experience and say that a friend was very concerned about her child last year when they were injured in a particularly dangerous initiation ceremony and the university were very helpful. Just as well as he had concussion and was taken to hospital. Whilst Unis won't take every parent's concerns seriously, after the suicides that have occurred in previous years, I understood that Universities were acting more cautiously about ignoring concerns.
Of course I don't know everything; however it would take me far too long to write down what I don't know and the first year of Uni would be long gone. The point I was trying to make, particularly as there was a particularly pointed comment about my son being able to cope, was that I wasn't just making my observations about his experience. I was making them based on what I had seen by a vast number of his friends who come from all walks of life and are at different Universities. I also have friends who lecture in Uni's. I certainly wasn't aiming at making anybody angry and of course there are some students who are finding this very hard...as there would be in a normal year. Those students do need more support and should be given in but not all students should thought of not being able to cope. Some of things people are shouting about, like contact time, is little different from what it usually is; we just don't hear about it on the news. I would stand beside anybody who was decrying that, I think it is a disgrace. The thought that every student is sitting in their room without any body else around is also wrong...the majority will have flatmates. Of course those in more traditional style accommodation should be allowed a bubble if they have isolated for the required time.
I don't see the point of worrying every gran who has a student grandchild that things are 'terrible'. They aren't ideal, for some they are terrible but for many, they have the resilience to get on with it and will still find a way of making it work. If you keep telling people they are weak, you will weaken them.