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The people who should be apologising are the males who impregnated the girls in the first place then refused to stand by them. Difficult in the case of the Spanish waiter, the fifteen-year old schoolboy and the thrice married American serviceman who returned home immediately, but not the fault of the government and not the fault of the parents.
People forget there were no benefits for unmarried mothers, little child benefit, no nursery care to allow the mother to work and the almost impossibility of a single woman with a child able to live independently.
The burden for raising the child fell almost entirely on the maternal grandmother, she who was probably also supporting elderly parents or beginning a return to work to earn much needed income. A great credit that so many parents did support their daughters' children, but some understanding needs to be shown to those who didn't.
A very tragic and traumatic experience, but one that has largely been resolved since the 40s, 50s and 60s.
The past was a different country, and they did things differently there, for reasons we are forgetting.
My great aunt had an illegitimate baby in the 1920s. She was from a very strict Methodist family and from what I understand her parents were quite harsh. She got pregnant at 16. Her parents let her keep the baby, her relationship with her daughter was something I saw for myself in the 1960s. It wasn't all roses and my mother always said she was kept as a skivvy but she did keep her baby.
It wasn't governments, it wasn't agencies, it was parents who wouldn't allow or help their daughters to keep their babies. Too late for an apology from most of them. Yes they were probably embarrassed in front of the neighbours, yes people would probably have pointed the finger but would you put that above the welfare of your daughter and grandchild?
I don't think adoption is always wrong, if a teenage girl doesn't feel able to cope and feels a new family for the baby and for her to get on with her life is the best thing then that is a reasonable decision, families letting girls down is unforgivable. Maybe people want to blame the government as they don't want to blame their parents?