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GrannyGravy13 Tue 27-Jun-23 11:01:29

This has probably been discussed previously on GN, but due to the economic constraints being put on young families at the moment I thought I would start a thread.

There are at least three children currently on holiday in one of my GC’s class at the moment. One of our AC is away with one school age GC along with their school age cousin.

All will I guess be fined by the local council if the school has submitted the unauthorised absence form.

The difference in the price of a holiday in the U.K. and abroad in the school holidays as opposed to term time is widening. It is so much cheaper to take the fine.

Time to ditch the fines?

Wheniwasyourage Fri 30-Jun-23 21:57:51

Sooze58: I think people forget that holiday prices are not increased during the school holidays but discounted at other times.

This is a good point and one which IMO applies to other things - peak rail travel for instance, which is the right price, whereas non-peak tickets are discounted.

Norah Fri 30-Jun-23 14:36:52

GrannyGravy13

We had (and still have) a SME, our busiest times of the year were/are school holidays.

Whilst I appreciate that the teachers on here are against taking children out of school. I have just worked out that due to the ages of our five children if we had never taken them out of school we would not have had a holiday in 28 years.

I count 30 years without holidays if we never took our 4 children out of school. That wouldn't have worked well for us.

GrannyGravy13 Fri 30-Jun-23 07:56:49

Jaxjacky

I never took my two out GG13, but we did have holidays in the UK, camping or caravans, sometimes borrowing kit, or using mobile homes belonging to them at a cheaper rate. Days out, picnics and walks or the beach, basically what I, as a SP could afford, even a house swop one year.

On multiple years, we had to work in the school holidays (we supplied/supported contractors who worked on school refurbishment and repairs), juggling child care. No chance of getting away anywhere.

Jaxjacky Thu 29-Jun-23 22:07:19

I never took my two out GG13, but we did have holidays in the UK, camping or caravans, sometimes borrowing kit, or using mobile homes belonging to them at a cheaper rate. Days out, picnics and walks or the beach, basically what I, as a SP could afford, even a house swop one year.

Nannagarra Thu 29-Jun-23 21:56:46

Mollygo

Nannagarra what a nightmare!
I bet your head didn’t offer to mark the work when it came back or chase up the parents when the work didn’t come back completed.

You’re spot on, * Mollygo*. Precisely. 👍

GrannyGravy13 Thu 29-Jun-23 18:42:21

Just had a recount, make that 33 years…

GrannyGravy13 Thu 29-Jun-23 18:05:33

We had (and still have) a SME, our busiest times of the year were/are school holidays.

Whilst I appreciate that the teachers on here are against taking children out of school. I have just worked out that due to the ages of our five children if we had never taken them out of school we would not have had a holiday in 28 years.

eazybee Thu 29-Jun-23 17:35:25

Milliedog, you are so right.
I did have that experience, spread throughout the year, of 17 children missing vital lessons, and several parents getting quite cross because they didn't understand new concepts properly; (eg, grid multiplication taking much repetition and reinforcement to grasp). TAs were pulled away from their normal roles to explain individually to these children, at cost to the other children they were there to support.
MadeInYorkshire, volunteer to help in a school for the last few days of term and see what actually happens; you will be surprised.
I was married to a teacher and our holidays were always peak time; we took a few family holidays abroad, but the cost then, (80s/90s) was nothing like it is now.

NotSpaghetti Thu 29-Jun-23 15:09:05

Joseann

Interesting thread from both sides.
Can I just pop in a comment (from the much maligned independence sector on here!), that .....
IF the state system had much smaller classes,
IF the curriculum were not so prescribed,
IF teachers were allowed the autonomy to teach using methods they felt best for the children,
IF parents were on board and had the right respect for the teachers
THEN holidays during term time can work with no problems.

This is SO true!

MadeInYorkshire Thu 29-Jun-23 13:36:09

We did it when the children were little - would generally tag a day or two off at the end of term, as going a day or 2 earlier would save hundreds and we just couldn't afford it! Generally they don't learn anything at the end of the year anyway, just play games etc all day, so I didn't feel that they were missing much!

Mollygo Thu 29-Jun-23 13:22:24

Tweedle24
That’s the whole point. There is no one solution that fits all.
Besides your situation Tweedle24, we have parents in hospitality, whose busy times are . . . the school holidays.
We shouldn’t censor the parents, and I actually agree that parents shouldn’t be fined, especially since the money doesn’t go into school where we could perhaps be used to provide catch up lessons for those children who missed something.
However,
there was a huge drop in absence numbers when fines were introduced.
^Most noticeable changes for us were:
1. Parents stopped taking more than one term time break per year.
2. Parents stopped taking the first week of term or tacking a week onto half terms or Easter. )
Parents also started complaining because
the absences were recorded on the annual reports.

What would be the best solution for parents, children and teachers? I’ve read lots of posts saying children soon catch up. Some do, but many of them struggle.

Tweedle24 Thu 29-Jun-23 12:04:53

As a ward sister, I had 22 ward staff. Most were parents and some had partners who had no choice with holidays. It was a nightmare managing holidays during the six week school holidays. I could only allow the equivalent of two full-staff. To be on holiday at the same time.

Don’t censor the parents who have to take breaks during term time and, please, don’t judge those who do. Parents deserve a holiday too.

Mollygo Thu 29-Jun-23 11:30:26

Nannagarra what a nightmare!
I bet your head didn’t offer to mark the work when it came back or chase up the parents when the work didn’t come back completed.

Juicylucy Thu 29-Jun-23 11:13:28

Not all lessons are learned in the classroom. Take the holiday. Holiday companies need to do better, instead of capitalising on families.

Wyllow3 Thu 29-Jun-23 09:01:48

Even in Joseann's circs I think "good reasons" .

But then you get into the "who decides "good reasons?"

To me a "good reason" might be if parents were GP's and it would wreck the practice for 6 weeks if most GPs were parents and therefore necessary for good of all etc.

Nannagarra Thu 29-Jun-23 08:43:42

I echo your thoughts Milliedog.
One year the parents of six children - in different year groups - requested work to be set while they used term time for holidays. I had to precisely anticipate where each child would be in the scheme of work when their holiday started, estimate how much they would independently progress, tailor provision to that child’s needs, photocopy materials, and calculate if sufficient/insufficient tasks had been set. Meanwhile I was planning for and teaching the other 200+ children in my classes and writing individual end of year reports.
It did irk me when the headmaster bountifully and liberally granted holidays in term time then hounded staff to cater for his generosity.

Frogs Thu 29-Jun-23 08:14:12

In the same way Chardy that a lot of parents have no control over when they can take their annual leave from the workplace and are expected to deal with emails etc that arrive in the evening/weekends and on their day’s off. Sadly it’s a tough world out there for everyone these days.

Joseann Thu 29-Jun-23 07:07:34

Interesting thread from both sides.
Can I just pop in a comment (from the much maligned independence sector on here!), that .....
IF the state system had much smaller classes,
IF the curriculum were not so prescribed,
IF teachers were allowed the autonomy to teach using methods they felt best for the children,
IF parents were on board and had the right respect for the teachers
THEN holidays during term time can work with no problems.

Chardy Thu 29-Jun-23 06:48:21

Saggi

Do teachers get fined for strike days or when they close schools because of inch of snow….I don’t think so!

The snow days are a Health & Safety issue (protecting pupils - you imagine the upsetif a pupil broke a leg. In older schools, the heating may be unable to cope. And as has been mentioned staffing ratios need to be maintained). It's decided by the Head, Site Manager & Chair of Governors at around 6am that day. Nothing to do with teachers.

As for strike days, I listened to one man saying his teacber-wife was on strike, no pay, at home writing her reports!

Cold Wed 28-Jun-23 22:43:07

Not everyone has the luxury of being able to get leave during the school summer holidays, for example, tourism workers, hospitality staff, healthcare workers ... so of course their children don't deserve a holiday

Then there is the issue that sometimes family members are abroad and you need some additional holiday time to attend family weddings, grandparents' big birthdays, etc etc But often there is very little overlap between different countries' school holidays. But I guess these children don't deserve holidays to spend time with family either

Then of course holidays are only for the wealthy as everyone seems to remember the days where you could rent a cottage for sixpence - totally ignoring the fact that even what we remember as "cheap" holidays - camping, self catering etc - can cost in the £1000s these days.

Then of course there are the environmental arguments that I have read. Of course the irony is, that if you don't fly and instead use car, ferries, trains etc to travel 1000-2000 miles to your holiday destination, then it takes much longer and you need more time out of school ....

It all makes me happy that my children went to school abroad where the system is less rigid and draconian and children are allowed to take up to 10 days of authorised absence so they could attend family weddings, their Grandmother's 80th birthday, have holidays with family and go away even when leave was restricted so they did not have to spend the entire year in school and childcare.

Mollygo Wed 28-Jun-23 22:02:33

VS yes parents do. And we don’t hand it out.
Can I take a few reading books? I don’t want her to miss out/get behind.”
I don’t give her any reading scheme books, but just offer a list of books suitable for the child’s reading level.
Can I have some worksheets so he doesn’t get behind?”
Sorry, most of our work is in books and is to follow up the lessons, which he will miss.
Encourage him to keep a diary or a scrapbook and praise him if he writes neatly.
Besides which, if they are going on holiday, that’s what they should do.

JRTW2 Wed 28-Jun-23 21:40:05

I agree.

Wyllow3 Wed 28-Jun-23 21:00:30

Thank you Milliedog some common sense from the front line at last. Thats exactly what I was trying to explain earlier -chaoes if everyone were selfish, but you do it so well.

VioletSky Wed 28-Jun-23 20:57:17

I've heard of arents going on holiday in term time and asking for teacher set work which I thought was very unreasonable

Mollygo Wed 28-Jun-23 20:44:07

Home school, not none school