I'm not sure all Muslims can choose to be "lapsed". It's what many Catholics like me did when they reached an age of independent thought, and maybe like me they would put up with quite a bit of sighing and the odd lecture, I just fronted it out till I left home. There's no question of being pressurised by male members of the family, apart from a few lectures and moans from my grandmother, that was it really! In retrospect in spite of being brought up in a fairly strict religion I had to adhere to as a child, I know I had the luxury of being pretty free from teen years on, and it is a luxury compared to what some women have to put up with. In worst case scenarios, honour killings 