maddyone
MerylStreep
I wish I’d gone to my daughter and carried on doing the childcare for her. I didn’t mind the lockdown as I thought it was protecting us, but it didn’t protect my daughter from being persuaded by her manipulative husband from taking advantage of our absence to persuade her to move away from her loving family to New Zealand. He would never have achieved that without lockdown. She had refused for eleven years to move abroad because we were/are a close family, but he had always wanted to dispose of family, both his and hers.
They’re separated now, divorce will follow in a few months. He refuses to allow her to bring the children home to the UK to live.
Maybe if we hadn’t obeyed lockdown this would never have happened.
Are any of them Kiwi born? If not, they don't automatically have the right to live there. Another problem is, I assume your daughter is UK born, if he is Kiwi, SHE has to prove she needs to be there. My sister married a kiwi in the 90's, had sprogs, then came over here for 14 yrs, went back BUT she has to prove that she's there legally, married, children (though all adult now) and WONT be a burden on the state (one reason mum can't go over, she's too decrepit!) Another issue, is hubby WONT do a will and laws are different, she doesn't automatically get it, no will, HIS family get good portion and they hate her, always have done, meaning property over here that is half his/half hers, they could lay claim to. This worries mum as that property was originally hers, she deeded it to 2 of my sisters, one sold her share to brother in law.
I CAN imagine what you're feeling and if your daughter is genuinely in distress, there is help, surely? I know a lot of folk say NZ brill etc. It is beautiful, reminded me of Wales when I went BUT it's also expensive. Every day stuff is more than here, sister is constantly complaining and wants to come back but he doesn't for a couple of years. He's actually recovering from major surgery at the moment which the GP managed to get free as he should have paid. Son has type 1 diabetes, HE has to pay for his prescriptions!