3 Abandoned Newborn Babies

Anniebach

I question if the mother didn’t care what happened to her new
borns why not leave them on a roadside, a loo, a garden ?

This baby was left on a roadside. According to the local paper the discovery was made by a dog walker at 9.13pm on Thursday 18 January, at the junction of Greenway and High Street South in East Ham. I think whoever left her obviously wanted her to be found - but she was lucky somebody walked past because it was obviously cold.

NotSpaghetti

...but that assumes she was allowed out.

No one is forced to stay in hospital post delivery. If no complications may be out within 6 to 8 hours.

I question if the mother didn’t care what happened to her new
borns why not leave them on a roadside, a loo, a garden ?

Tragic story all round for the babies and the mother. Hard to imagine what sort of situation the mother must be in. I assume that DNA testing is done routinely for abandoned babies.

The most recent baby was abandoned with the cord still attached, estimated to be only 1 hour old, in a supermarket carrierbag on a freezing cold night - only found by a dog walker - unlikely to have been discovered otherwise and would have died of exposure.

I don't think the person who abandoned the poor little mite had chosen somewhere where she'd be found quickly.

Assuming she wasn’t alone giving birth

...but that assumes she was allowed out.

M0nica
In the hours immediately after birth I felt like superwoman! I think a motivated mother could have done this to be honest.

I’ve no idea why these poor little babies have been abandoned, but I just find it so sad. I’m glad they were quickly found.

It is clearly the father who is doing the abandonment as all the babies have been abandoned within a very few hours of their birth and I doubt whether most women would be capable of getting up dressing, wrapping the baby up so carefully, and then getting to the chosen, and they do seem chosen, places that they wish to leave the baby to make sure it is quickly found.

After some of the stories I've heard from a neighbour who is a midwife I wondered if they were the result of forced prostitution, but as they all have the same father, this doesn't seem likely. I also wondered if the long gap might be due to one of the parents being in prison or something similar. I'm glad that they've realised it's important for the children to know each other. Their background will still be a mystery but it will give them some sense of family.

It can’t just be poverty or just not wanting children what’s to stop someone giving birth in hospital and placing the child for adoption. Having an unassisted birth, leaving 3 babies in plastic bags in the park is not everyday behaviour. There’s got to be more of a backstory, perhaps abuse, a trafficked woman, migrants living under the radar who don’t know how to access services, who knows.

OldFrill

They should know from as early as suitable that they are adopted and the circumstances revealed over time. Certainly don't wait until they are adults. Highly likely other people will know and it's best the children are prepared and it's not some ghastly shock in the playground.

Children brought up in foster or adoptive families are given age appropriate information throughout their lives. Historically adopted children weren’t brought up like this, there was some notion about telling them ‘when they’re old enough’. We now know this is unhelpful to say the least.

They should know from as early as suitable that they are adopted and the circumstances revealed over time. Certainly don't wait until they are adults. Highly likely other people will know and it's best the children are prepared and it's not some ghastly shock in the playground.

You do not explain it to the child. You wait until they are grown up.

Whatever the circumstances it is awful to think that somewhere there is a woman who has secretly been pregnant and given birth three times without anyone knowing. You would imagine someone must know about her.
At least science has helped realise that the three babies are related. I hope they are able to meet up in the future. But I can't imagine how you would explain it all to a child.

I too wonder if it’s an illegal-illicit relationship. It could be incestuous and the mother needs to be found as this isn’t normal by any stretch of the imagination.

Curtaintwitcher

At least the babies were left where they would be found, so there was some degree of concern. Abandoning a baby in a secluded area where it is sure to die is manslaughter.

The January baby was left outside in freezing temperatures, so no concern there and the baby was more likely to have died than survived.

It could also be religious differences, or that one parent is married.. I am also impressed by the resilience and compassion shown by the siblings in the Irish story..

The baby looks very strong and healthy and when the time comes hopefully they ll be reunited
There could be a million reasons and they don’t all have to be dramatic It could be a loving couple but their religion doesn’t allow birth control and they aren’t economically able, it could be a long term affair it could be anything it doesn’t have to be nasty nasty stuff like some posters are imagining

At least the babies were left where they would be found, so there was some degree of concern. Abandoning a baby in a secluded area where it is sure to die is manslaughter.

I would imagine that all abandoned babies are DNA tested because it can enable the parents to be found. There were several abandoned babies reunited with their birth families on some episodes of Long Lost Family and it was amazing this could happen when in some cases the 'babies' were now 50 years old. A real miracle and something they never expected after so many years.

They have said these babies would meet each other in due course. I think they should try and have them fostered or adopted by the same family, then they can grow up together.

Sparklefizz

It's now been announced that 3 abandoned newborn babies all have the same parents.

Could it be that the mother is being held captive like that young woman in Austria imprisoned by her father, who gave birth to several babies which he removed?

I immediately thought the same. I really worry about the mother of these 3 babies.

My first thoughts were that it was domestic slavery actually pably15 - but it could be any (difficult) situation.
So very sad.

What generous souls the Irish siblings seem to be towards their parents. How amazing that they found each other though.

The Irish story was sad. She had a lifelong love affair with a married man and left the babies where they would be found. He had quite a large happy family himself and I don't think his wife ever knew. He was in some band or orchestra and she never married.