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How could we have let Sara down so badly?

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petal53 Wed 11-Dec-24 16:48:49

I heard on the news this afternoon, and read in the DM about the guilty verdicts in the case of the little girl, Sara Sharif. Reading the details about her treatment, right from birth, brought tears to my eyes. The police, her school, Social Services, and the judiciary all let this child down so badly, it’s scarcely believable. I speak as an ex teacher. This child was at risk from day one, and spent several years in foster care. The school failed to report more than once. Social Services were involved throughout her ten years of life, but frequently failed her during those years. I haven’t got words for the Family Court judge who placed her back with her abusive father. They all knew he was violent and abusive towards women and children, and yet she was placed in his care and left in his care.

We’re all currently appalled at what has been happening in Syria’s prisons, and yet this child was subjected to sickening abuse here in England. The same kind of abuse those prisoners were subjected to. Beaton with a metal pole and a cricket bat, plastic bags tied around her face, bitten, burnt with a hot iron. It’s absolutely heartbreaking. Her father and step mother are guilty, and her uncle guilty of allowing it to happen, but a lot of other people are guilty too. Guilty of failing this beautiful child. I hope they’re all ashamed of the part they played in the events that caused her suffering and eventually her death.

Allira Tue 17-Dec-24 14:08:47

And that step-person. Not fit to use the name mother.

Uncle should have got a lot longer but perhaps that's the maximum that creature can be given under the law.

Allira Tue 17-Dec-24 14:07:20

Then dad ‘ran away to Pakistani because he was scared’. Good.

I hope he spends every day of the rest of his miserable life scared witless that someone might be out to get him.
Or in solitary.

Anniebach Tue 17-Dec-24 14:03:35

Abuse was taking place before Sara was removed from school

Maremia Tue 17-Dec-24 14:01:01

Proposed legislation going through just now, that home schooling should not be allowed 'automatically' to families at risk.

FriedGreenTomatoes2 Tue 17-Dec-24 13:25:44

And the WhatsApp message from Batool’s sister beggars belief:
The comment "why won't Sara learn" shows that culturally this kind of behaviour (beatings by the father) could be understood and maybe abuse against women is normalised?

I’ll shut up now.
It’s too horrible. And more heads should roll.
In my opinion.

FriedGreenTomatoes2 Tue 17-Dec-24 13:23:04

You’ll notice from photographs too that the family home was within a shared HOUSE and the neighbours heard every scream.

FriedGreenTomatoes2 Tue 17-Dec-24 13:17:47

On April 17, the first day back after the Easter holidays, Sharif emailed the school informing them he would be homeschooling Sara from then on.

It is understood teachers at the school contacted the social services safeguarding team and were told that if they had concerns, they should make a referral. This did not happen.

Despite the move coming just a month after the initial social services referral, no one from the council or the school visited the family home in person.

Less than four months later, Sara was dead.

Anniebach Tue 17-Dec-24 13:15:36

Quote MissInterpreted Tue 17-Dec-24 13:07:32
Her father, Urfan Sharif, 43, must spend a minimum of 40 years in prison and stepmother Beinash Batool, 30, must serve 33 years.
www.bbc.co.uk/news/live/c4glrqkw751t

And in the aftermath, if I have to hear someone say 'lessons must be learned', I think I'll scream!

Think I will join you

eazybee Tue 17-Dec-24 13:11:17

One question I asked has been answered; Sara was buried in Poland by her mother.

MissInterpreted Tue 17-Dec-24 13:07:32

Her father, Urfan Sharif, 43, must spend a minimum of 40 years in prison and stepmother Beinash Batool, 30, must serve 33 years.
www.bbc.co.uk/news/live/c4glrqkw751t

And in the aftermath, if I have to hear someone say 'lessons must be learned', I think I'll scream!

Anniebach Tue 17-Dec-24 13:06:55

The father minimum 40 years

Step mother minimum 33 years

Uncle 19 years

FriedGreenTomatoes2 Tue 17-Dec-24 12:43:15

Me too. Just horrific. So many nasty injuries.
Then dad ‘ran away to Pakistani because he was scared’. Good.
How did he think Sara felt?
Selfish bastard.

eazybee Tue 17-Dec-24 12:40:11

I am listening. No words.

Anniebach Tue 17-Dec-24 12:30:01

I have been listening to the summing up of the judge, too
horrific to continue listening

karmalady Tue 17-Dec-24 12:29:14

I am listening to the judge summing up, on GBnews.

Bl**dy monsters

Iam64 Mon 16-Dec-24 20:53:35

It is hard to believe isn’t it, what two adults, including the mother of this defenceless dependent infant subjected her to.

petal53 Mon 16-Dec-24 20:22:45

Yes, that’s the little girl. Poor little poppet. It’s just beyond my understanding and the understanding of all our Gransnetters I think.

Iam64 Mon 16-Dec-24 19:59:56

Isabella Jonas Wheildon - a two tear old, beaten over a period of time, until she died. Her mother and boyfriend pushed the dead infant around in her push chair for 3 days. There were traces of cocaine and cannabis in her hair/blood.
The news papers show a photograph of her not long before she died, with a very badly bruised face - still smiling.
The two adults were drinking alcohol etc and seen laughing as they pushed the dead child around
Absolutely heart breaking

petal53 Mon 16-Dec-24 19:52:29

I’m not a Starmer fan but I support any initiative that makes children safer, so I’ll cross my fingers for that.
These cases; Sara, little Star, Aurther, and the other little girl in the news this week (I cant remember her name) and all the others we hear about. It all makes me so angry and so sad.

Iam64 Mon 16-Dec-24 19:22:15

Wyllow3 , thanks for the link. I’ve read quickly but will read more comprehensively. My quick read reminded me of one of the reasons I voted Labour in the belief that a key focus would be the holistic needs of children.
I try not to waste energy looking back, feeling angry about what happened to the support and investigative services that were built during the Blair years when Cameron instigated his unnecessary and damaging austerity programme. Reading Wyllow’s link had me back with the distress, the anger as I watched good services in the deprived areas I worked destroyed.
Go Starmer

Wyllow3 Mon 16-Dec-24 14:12:20

escaped

Maremia

Okay then , back to wee Sara. An article in the Guardian online this morning is about the rise in home schooling and the concern about the lack of regulation. If 'lessons are to learned' from this tragedy, then one of them is the necessity of a strong enough oversight and stringent regulations drawn up about this topic. Not the only issue, I know.

And well done for Keir Starmer last week calling for better safeguards around this whole issue. I totally agree with him.

I can't find the Guardian Article but the government already has from July a Children's Wellbeing Bill in the pipeline - this will add agency hopefully. I also imagine Social Services Departments will be reviewing a number of issues!

ssslearning.co.uk/safeguarding-articles/childrens-wellbeing-bill?srsltid=AfmBOorEpKjYbpJwzW43iBC648ckw1axvwIO8lTdVRdupJLCez3LMKOe

Wyllow3 Mon 16-Dec-24 12:24:34

Anniebach

What of the time before home schooling too ?

On page 14 foxie gives the whole timeline of interventions and events from 2013 to 2023 at 15.13.

escaped Mon 16-Dec-24 12:20:04

Maremia

Okay then , back to wee Sara. An article in the Guardian online this morning is about the rise in home schooling and the concern about the lack of regulation. If 'lessons are to learned' from this tragedy, then one of them is the necessity of a strong enough oversight and stringent regulations drawn up about this topic. Not the only issue, I know.

And well done for Keir Starmer last week calling for better safeguards around this whole issue. I totally agree with him.

Anniebach Mon 16-Dec-24 12:13:34

What of the time before home schooling too ?

Maremia Mon 16-Dec-24 11:10:44

Okay then , back to wee Sara. An article in the Guardian online this morning is about the rise in home schooling and the concern about the lack of regulation. If 'lessons are to learned' from this tragedy, then one of them is the necessity of a strong enough oversight and stringent regulations drawn up about this topic. Not the only issue, I know.