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A better word than 'apologise'?

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Sago Thu 18-Jun-26 12:46:22

OldFrill

You think those that have campaigned for so long for this apology should just have been ignored the Sago?

Did I say that?

Why are you so acerbic?

I am agreeing with the OP.

I don’t think there are words to express the pain these young women and girls went through and to think the Magadelene Laundries were still operating up until 1996.
The Catholic Church behaved appallingly, in the name of God.

My husband was adopted because his birth mother had no choice, she felt the pain every day until they were reunited.

These women should never be ignored, the words of Phillipson could never be enough.

GrannyGravy13 Thu 18-Jun-26 12:20:44

NotSpaghetti

I think what is required is a meaningful acknowledgement of the terrible hurt caused.

By everyone.

I agree with this 👍

NotSpaghetti Thu 18-Jun-26 12:15:24

I think what is required is a meaningful acknowledgement of the terrible hurt caused.

By everyone.

NotSpaghetti Thu 18-Jun-26 12:13:51

eazybee

Instead of.

And the parents/ school/ church could also apologise.
Often the mum just needed support rather than becoming an outcast and having her baby removed.

Mollygo Thu 18-Jun-26 11:47:08

Maybe, when the perpetrators are dead, there needs to be a word for admission that something done in the past was wrong and preferably a demonstration that things have changed to stop it happening again.

Until then, if an apology from someone not personally involved helps those who suffered, then they should get it.

Tuliptree Thu 18-Jun-26 11:46:43

eazybee

Instead of.

Well that lets the state off the hook doesn’t it?

AGAA4 Thu 18-Jun-26 11:42:10

One of the women who had her baby taken from her said an 'apology' was well overdue.
It has to be acknowledged that a great wrong was done to these young women.

eazybee Thu 18-Jun-26 11:40:29

Instead of.

Tuliptree Thu 18-Jun-26 11:35:34

eazybee

The people who should be apologising should be the fathers of these children, who refused to take responsibility.

You mean instead of or as well as? And as if that would happen anyway.

Tuliptree Thu 18-Jun-26 11:34:36

And it’s a state apology not an apology based on the personal responsibility of the person issuing it. Scotland and Wales and the Cof E have already apologised and my only criticism is that it’s taken so long .

eazybee Thu 18-Jun-26 11:34:30

The people who should be apologising should be the fathers of these children, who refused to take responsibility.

Tuliptree Thu 18-Jun-26 11:28:44

grumppa

I agree. It would be interesting to know how the victims feel about these long delayed apologies.

The MP who has led this campaign and had her baby taken away thinks absolutely that an apology is called for.

OldFrill Thu 18-Jun-26 11:26:03

You think those that have campaigned for so long for this apology should just have been ignored the Sago?

Sago Thu 18-Jun-26 11:13:25

It’s all meaningless.

grumppa Thu 18-Jun-26 11:02:38

I agree. It would be interesting to know how the victims feel about these long delayed apologies.

winterwhite Thu 18-Jun-26 10:49:28

This is prompted by hearing that Bridget Phillipson is to apologise to the victims of forced adoption in the 1940s-70s, but this use of apologise has given me pause for thought before.

IMO apologising is admitting some degree of personal responsibility or involvement which I don't think can be passed on or inherited.

So it seems inappropriate, even a bit glib, for politicians to be apologising for things that happened before they were born. It must be possible to find a form of words expressing deep regret at what happened and sounding sincere.

I'm not sure that victim is the right word either but less easy to think of an alternative.