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Do you worry what will happen to all your belongings when you die?

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mrsgreenfingers56 Mon 17-Feb-20 10:40:54

Getting older I seem to have a lot of "stuff" and yet do clear out quite frequently. When you have hobbies and interests you do have more belongings. Just had a new suite and carpet and had to move a lot of things and when I emptied the two rooms I thought there is so much gear/belongings/stuff and almost felt a bit stressed with it all. I am not a hoarder but when you empty cupboards and drawers etc it starts to dawn on you how many belongings you have. Huge bags to go to the charity shop now and the wheelie bin is full. I thought to myself what a job for my family when I am gone.
Do other Gransnets think on these lines at times?

Sara65 Thu 20-Feb-20 07:04:46

I don’t worry about it, but I think it’s sad that a lot of our things will end up in a skip, because they’re too big for either daughters homes, and my son certainly wouldn’t want them.
They aren’t valuable or antique, they’re items we’ve had made over the years, but probably too big for most houses.

I haven’t got any valuable jewellery, no original artwork, but thousands of books, of no value at all, except to me. The more I think about it, very little will be recycled.

M0nica Thu 20-Feb-20 08:48:24

There is absolutely no reason or any excuse for putting decent quality furniture, no matter what its colour or age, in a skip. There are charity shops that collect and sell furniture, there are charities that take furniture to help to furnish flats for homeless people, who get accommodation but have no money to furnish it, you can put it in an auction sale or get a house clearance company to clear it.

If there is one thing I can be sure will happen after my death, it is that none of my belongings will end up in a skip and landfill, until every other way of disposing and recycling them. has been exhausted

trisher Thu 20-Feb-20 09:18:07

Actually no one will take furniture which does not carry a fire certificate label. So old armchairs/settees etc go to the skip unless they have reached the state of being collectables when someone might be willing to refurbish them.

SueDonim Thu 20-Feb-20 10:13:09

I assure you, Monica no one would take my friend’s wall units & cupboards. No charities would accept it (they said they’re overrun with goods), no one on ‘Swap/giveaway’ sites wanted it. She asked the council who said they’d certainly collect it but they too would put in the skip. confused

notanan2 Thu 20-Feb-20 16:04:49

Wall units are tricky. So many ppl in rentals where theyre not allowed to hang as much as a picture hook sad

Dark furniture still goes fast to "upcyclers" but it needs to be "renter friendly" (not wall mounted and compact)

endlessstrife Thu 20-Feb-20 16:55:55

My friend’s mum died a few years ago, and her dad a few years before. My friend and her two siblings had the arduous task of house clearing. It was a big house with so much stuff, it was so stressful for them. Added to it was the memories which were triggered, not all good. I decided there and then, to completely declutter and get rid of stuff we knew we’d never need, to save our children the job when we both die, or one of us when the other one dies.

M0nica Thu 20-Feb-20 19:50:49

trisher there is more to furnishing a house than upholstery. Rables and chairs and shelves and all sorts of things.

Most of our furniture is really old, sourced from junk shops and auctions and gradually upgraded by keeping good pieces from relatives houses and buying and selling at auctions and restoration and while the market for brown furniture has slumped in recent years, nevertheless, we usually succeed in selling anything we have decided has outlived its welcome.

We have cleared 5 family houses and the only thing we could not sell or rehome was a good quality repro georgian sideboard.

SueDonim Thu 20-Feb-20 19:52:18

They weren’t hung on the wall, they just stood on the floor. confused

trisher Thu 20-Feb-20 21:16:24

Well bully for you M0nica don't admit you were entirely wrong about everything being resaleble no matter what its date or condition. Soft furnishings are found in most houses and many people have stuff that is not fire proofed and it really should be sent to the tip. Of course there are always people who will sell or pass on dangerous goods with no thought about what might ensue.

M0nica Thu 20-Feb-20 21:38:38

trisher well, since you had already said that, and my post was in response to yours, why should I need to repeat it?

Billybob4491 Fri 21-Feb-20 09:34:54

I have had two charity shops call this week, I am downsizing and have parted with a great deal of furniture. I asked the delivery men if they sell everything they get donated, they said mostly yes, but some items end up in the skip, likewise if they do not have room to store, in the skip it goes.

Callistemon Fri 21-Feb-20 09:47:52

Wall units don't usually hang on walls, notanan

They are freestanding dressers which could be painted with chalk paint to look modern.

notanan2 Fri 21-Feb-20 10:10:51

Well Ive never heard of that must be regional I call them dressers etc

They get a good price in clearance stores
You dont generally find them in charity shops who only have space for essentials (fire labelled sofas, kitchen tables, bedframes) but clearance stores take them and they go fast (so long as not wide/bulky)