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I have one of each so I have a favourite GD and a favourite GS! They are completely different and very alike so no point trying to compare. Anyway I'm smug in the knowledge that they are the best GC ever!! Funnily enough my MiL though exactly the same about hers and so do some of you! ?

I have one DGD who I love dearly, and will most definitely not have favourites if I am lucky enough to have any more. I also have 5 step grandchildren, and while I love them all I do sneakily have a fave. I don't think this would happen with my own though, which is interesting. But of course I will never confess!

I admit I find the boys easy & the girls difficult. All 4 of the boy GC are lovely & loving & easy to handle. One of the girls is a total nightmare & the other is showing traits of going the same way- not siblings either.The difficult one demands attention at all times (not just with me but parents too)& is manipulative & disobedient.If she is not the centre of attention she is very hard work. I love her to bits but I don't LIKE her that much if that makes sense. She has been difficult from about 6months old when the tantrums started. Her brothers are so laid back they are vertical!
Her younger cousin was a lovely baby & toddler but since starting school has begun to develop the same 'look at me & only me' attitude. She also has 2 brothers who are both a bit more volatile than their cousins.
I suspect as I only had boys I find girls difficult- I do love them all - really but I find the girls much harder to handle.

I have 2 GC who are brother and sister. Both are adorable and equally adored. But the little boy has always been very cuddly and affectionate which is lovely. And the little GD (the firstborn) has always been very independant. Both get equal love and attention but one of them gives and therefore receives more cuddles! They are still young so this might change by the time they are teenagers!

elfies, my parents were exactly the same. Their GS from D sister 2 was more than perfect. [in fact he was and still is a little sh*t] And they always ran my children and me down in front of us!!! Didn't do much to my already fragile self-esteem. What was interesting, is that my aunts did the same with my mother and Mother used to complain bitterlyI do have a favourite DGS, but his DM was terribly ill when he was born and he stayedHe comes almost every weekend to stay with us and his DF. He counts as an "almost" DC.
the DGDs were born far away, their DF doesn't much like me and my DD has rather strained relations with me. We see very little of the DGDs [three times a year at best], even Skyping has to be planned like a military operation. I try to keep in touch by writing and sending little parcels.
How can the relationship be the same between GCs?

I was disappointed that there was nowhere at the end of the survey to post a comment. I have a 5 year old granddaughter whose behaviour can be quite challenging and also a 6 month old baby granddaughter who is delightful in every way. Human nature as it is, how is not possible to prefer the baby at the moment. However, when she is the same age as the elder one is now she may indeed display the same behaviour and the elder may have completely changed and be delightful!! Having a favourite at any particular time is one thing, showing it is another. I would always treat them equally.

I honestly can't imagine how anyone can look at a grandchild and love him or her less than another. I fell in love at first sight with each of mine, and just couldn't love them more.

LOL

You're entitled to your opinion brileo, (but I know different!). [smug]

Sorry NfkDumpling, mine are the most superior - sorry - 1st Grandchild is favourite young man, GD is favourite girl, and youngest is favourite baby boy - even though he is now 9.
Love them all to bits

I have seven grandkids I treat them all the same but two live near me the others are overseas and I don't see very much of them so it's nothing to do with favouritism but the geography and emotional closeness that makes it different ..... but they all get exactly the same spent on them for birthdays, christmas, and when they are with me however the other five all have other granny and grandads, the ones that live near me have no one but me and their mum ... the two that live in NZ have their other Nanny and grandad around the corner from them so I m guessing that Nanny and grandad are their favourites simply by closeness

Favouritism is often perceived

I don't have a favourite and even if I did I wouldn't admit it, even to myself. Each person is individual and precious in their own way.
My mother told my sister and I that my sister was her favourite when I was about 12. She then added that I was Dad's favourite, thinking, I suppose, that this would make it alright.
I've never got over it.

Very interesting thread. I absolutely adore my six grandchildren but am particularly close to my only grandaughter. This doesn't make her my favourite but it is lovely to have such a close relationship with a three year old. Perhaps it is because she is the only girl...I don't know. But all six are all treated equally...particularly giving them the time for play and talk and love.

My mum could never love people equally and always ran folks down to each other,when she decided to favour one person in particular ....even grandchildren .
There was nothing harder than having to explain to our daughter than Gran wasn't being nasty she just took it in turns to think different people were the best.

I agree Nfk.

I'm with VQ and the others with multiple favourites. Four GDC. All favourites in their different ways. They're just all far superior to anyone else's DGC.

Made me snigger this....as we still say to both our adult children, we dislike you both the same and your Dad and I would have divorced years ago, but neither of us wanted custody. Harsh, I know, but we all have a good sense of humour. We also told the AC that if we had ever known they would invent a tv remote control, we would never have had them in the first place!! Boom, Boom lol.

Yes I do, my first GD she is 4 and wonderful. I feel bad saying this but it is true.

GG62 you have just wrote exactly what I always say (and mean) to my own DC about themselves & DGC.

I love each child more than life itself.

Oh how can one choose. My DGD 1 is my favourite because she is the only girl and and the first grandchild and I have spent more time with he r than any other. But her brother is so like my DH and is so loving while DGS 3 is so like my DD2 and DGS4 reminds me of himself alone and is a totally uniquely gorgeous child.

I only have one GC so not a problem. My father had favourites and the worse was in my brothers family when my father and his partner favoured the daughter. Made my sil very upset but her son went on to be a successful Serviceman and I am sure my Father a long term serviceman would br proud of him.

I have 4 grandchildren - asking me about favourites is like asking if I favour my arm or my leg!

I only have 2 GC and make sure that I'm scrupulously fair with both of them. Whatever I do for one, is balanced Ffor the other. I've seen the misery and confusion that was caused, to a little girl that I used to know, because her GM made no secret of the fact that she much preferred her 2 siblings. Wouldn't want that for any child.

Absolutely Hopehope.

no, definitely not! I would never favour one over the other, I love them all equally. My own mother favoured girls over the boys and it hurt the boys greatly as they always knew she preferred girls. I was very saddened by it all and no matter how many times I told her not to show this, she always did.